.
1. You wake up early morning but you cant
send
even a good morning message to your
lover trust me you are just pretending there is
no
love between you too.
2. You are in the same country you can take a
week without hearing the voice of the so called
lover... My dear there is no love
between two of you.
3. Your lover sends you a message but you read
without replying, instead of hurting his/her
feeling
be open and tell him/her that you don't love
her/
him anymore.
4. You organise to meet but everytime you are
saying you are busy. Why don't you tell him/her
the truth that you don't love her/
him.
5. When you meet you cant even give him her
a
hug why do you pretend that you in love.
6. Your phone is always busy whenever your
lover
calls. Why don't you tell him/her the truth that
you
don't love her/him.
7. You cant spare time for your lover but you
spare time for other people. Why don't you be
open to him/her that you don't love her him.
8. You've been dating for years without
knowing if
it's leading to marriage or not, tell him/her the
truth and stop wasting someone's time.
9. Feelings are so painful if you don't love that
person. Stop playing with his/her feelings. Be
open and say you don't love her/
him.
10. Your lover's heart is not a doll to be played
with. Be open and tell him/her that you don't
love
him/ her anymore

RELATIONSHIP TIPS TO GUYS:
1. Your girl is your second half. Yes you are the man; she knows that you are the man; you don't need to remind her about it. It is wrong for a guy to be constantly and always telling his girl/wife that he is the head of the relationship. 2. Don't be too authoritative. 3. Don't be too hard and don't be too soft. If you are too hard, she will have phobia for you and even hate you. If you are too soft, she will take you for granted. 4. Whenever she does something wrong, scold her a little and after a few minutes, draw her closer to you, hug her and kiss her. 5. Whenever you and her have a quarrel, after a few minutes hug her and kiss her telling her sweet words. 6. Don't command her to wash your clothes; plead with her to do so. 7. Learn how to use the word,"please", whenever you want her to do something for you. 8. Don't be too over protective. Allow her to visit her to visit her male and female friends. Infact allow her to call her male friends. You should trust her. Or else don't date the girl you don't trust. For the fact that she is dating you does not mean that she cannot have male friends. 9. Always apologise whenever you offend her. 10. Treat her like an angel. She will convert your house into Heaven.

12 SIGNS THAT YOUR IN LOVE
TWELVE:
You walk really slow when
you're with them.
ELEVEN:
You feel shy whenever they're
around.
TEN:
You smile when you hear their
voice.
NINE:
When you look at them,,you
can't see the other people
around you,,you just see him/
her.
SEVEN:
They're all you think about.
SIX:
You realize you're always smiling
when you're looking at them.
FIVE:
You would do anything just to
see them.
FOUR:
While reading this,,there was
one person on your mind this
whole time.
THREE:
You just smiled because it's true.
TWO:
You were so busy thinking
about that person,,you didn't
notice number eight was
missing.
ONE:
You just scrolled up to check &
now silently laughing at yourself.

Free yourself from negative people.
2. Let go of those who are already gone.
3. Give people you don't know a fair chance.
4. Show everyone kindness and respect.
5. Accept people just they way they are.
6. Encourage others and cheer for them.
7. Be your imperfectly perfect self.
8. Forgive people and move forward.
9. Do little things every day for others.
10. Always be loyal.
11. Say in better touch with people who matter to you.
12. Keep your promises and tell the truth.
13. Give what you want to receive.
14. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
15. Allow others to make their own decisions.
16. Talk a little less, and listen more.
17. Leave petty arguments alone.
18. Pay attention to your relationship with yourself.
19. Pay attention to who your real friends are.
20. Ignore unconstructive, hurtful gossip.

Don’t Break Her Heart
2. Don’t Pretend You Love Her
3. Don’t Tell Her She Is Ugly
4. Don’t Compare Her To Your Ex
5. Don’t Take Her Love For
Granted
6. Don’t Shout On Her
7. Don’t Beat Her
8. Never Cheat On Her
9. Don’t Disrespect Her
10. Don’t Waste Her Time If You
Will Not Marry Her
11. Don’t Make Her Break Her
Decision Of “NO *** BEFORE
MARRIAGE”
12. Don’t Make Her Feel Unloved
13. Don’t **** Her
14. Never Fail To Say She Is
Beautiful
15. Don’t Disgrace Her In The
Public
16. Don’t impregnate Her And
Deny it
17. Don’t Expose Her Secrets To
Your Friends And Family
18. Don’t Lie To Her
19. Don’t Correct Her In The
Public
20. Don’t Hate Her Family
21. Don’t Treat Her Like Your
Housemaid
22. Don’t Make Promises You
Can’t Keep
23. Never Destroy Her
How many agree with me ?..

Psychology says, the more loving you are, the more painful it feels when a person fails to realize how much you care for them.
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2. Psychology says, being able to instantly respond with sarcasm within seconds of a stupid question is a sign of a healthy brain.
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3. Psychology says, people usually leave because it's easier than working things out. People lie because sometimes it's easier than being honest.
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4. Psychology says, being angry and bitter destroys you mentally, lowers your IQ & can literally shorten your life.
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5. Psychology says, the person on your mind while you're unable to sleep is usually responsible for your happiness, pain or both.
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6. Psychology says, kissing causes a chemical reaction in the brain which lowers a woman's risk of suffering from depression.
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7. Psychology says, we seem to ignore the ones who adore us & pay more attention to those who ignore us.
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AGREE ??

Respect is an integral part of every relationship and it makes every relationship mature and long-lasting. Respect is what takes relationships to the next step and helps them grow. Real men know how to respect their partners, they know of the level of respect their partners deserve and they never forget it regardless of how they feel. Real men give a lot of importance to respect and this is one of the reasons why they never cheat, they just cannot disrespect their partners.

7. Real men don’t do flings

Real men look for serious relationships. They aren’t looking for one night stands, they look for partners who would hold their hand through life, who would be with them through thick and thin and who would support them during the best and the worst of times. Flings are for boys and immature men, who just don’t want to settle down or think the idea of settling down with one partner is just too boring. Real men, on the other hand, take their relationships very seriously.

6. Real men don’t want to live a lie

When someone is a cheater, they tend to lie a lot. Cheaters have to think of a thousand scenarios to cover their tracks and they have to lie on a lot of occasions. Real men just don’t want to live a lie all their lives, they can’t be unjust and untrue towards their partners and they like to tell them everything. I tell my girlfriend everything about my past because I want complete transparency, and I don’t hide anything from her even if telling her something would result in a fight. It’s better to tell the truth and get what’s coming than to lie and wait for something to come when it’s too late.

5. Real men can control themselves

Real men have enough will power to control themselves. Being a “one-woman-man” is not a thing of the past. Real men don’t have the urge to be physical with someone else because they’re happy enough with their partners. Real men know that the value of lust is not more than love and lust goes away after a while but love stays.

4. Real men can’t think of hurting their partners

Like I talk in the beginning, real men respect their partners. They can never think of intentionally hurting their partners. When someone cheats, they actually break the person who was in love with them. They break every fibre of trust their partners had in them and they cause a lot of trauma. Real men can never think of making their partners go through so much negativity and darkness and can never hurt their partners by being with someone else behind their backs.

3. Real men can’t juggle

I’ve seen a lot of guys who juggle two women at once, I don’t get how they do it. It’s emotionally impossible for me to imagine being with two girls at once, to be with two women and keep them in the dark. How can people play with someone’s feelings like that? To make each partner think they truly love them while telling the other partner the very same thing? This is something real men can’t do, they just can’t and won’t juggle. They’re happy with one woman who loves them.



2. Real men have the power to break up

One of the reasons why people cheat is when they aren’t happy with their partners and they want to see other people. And most of the time, they are too scared to break up. This is what real men don’t do, real men know when it’s time to break up with someone when things aren’t going well. They know that it’s much better to leave someone than to cheat on them or to lie to them, it’s another way of showing them respect by being completely honest with them.
1. Real men know what’s more important in life

The emotions, the feelings, the love, the memories, there are so many things that matter in life and are important. Real men know the importance of these things and know that staying loyal with their partners is more important than to go look for other people to have flings with. We are emotional, we cry, we laugh, we don’t have any ulterior motives in our minds, we just want to enjoy our lives with the people we love.



Any real men out there?

How many real men are reading this article? Or how many women can agree to this? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!

Q: What is the difference between
riding
a bicycle and a woman?
A: Riding a bicycle you fix your *** &
move your legs, riding a woman you
fix
your legs & move your ***.
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Q: What three things are common
between the sun and woman's
underwear?
A: Both are hot, both look better
while
going down and both disappear at
night.
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Q: What is the closest thing similar to
a
woman's period?
A: Your salary, it comes once a
month
lasts about 5-7 days and if it doesn't
come means you are *******.
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7 qualities of a perfect wife:
Beautiful
Responsible
Energetic
Adorable
Sweet
Truthful and
Self-Organized.
In short, she must have good
B.R.E.A.S.T.S
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­Q: Who is a gynecologist?
A: He is the only fool on the earth
who
looks for problems in a place, where
most people find pleasure.
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Q: What is the similarity between men
and rats?
A: Both keep searching for new
HOLES.

You can sleep well.
2. You can save time and money.
3. No worries about how you look.
4. No miss calls in the midnight.
5. No need to recharge more than twice a day.
6. You can talk to all boys/girls.
7. You can eat well
8. No scoldings from parents/
guardians.
9. Can eat in any restaurant.
10. You can visit any body.
11. can pick any call, any time without being
questioned.
12. Don't worry about missed
calls.
13. You will have 100% rest of
mind.
14. you will live a long life.
NOTE:- LOVE is a beautiful things,
fall in love with one who takes
you as a priority not to one that takes you as an
option.
Any man/ woman that doesn't give you LOVE, CARE
and ATTENTION is not worth to be with.
TRUE or FALSE ??...

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1. When you fall in love, make sure it's with
somebody who treats you exactly how you
deserve to be treated.
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2. Love somebody who wants to know everything
about you, from your favourite colour to your
childhood memories how you managed to survive
all those years.
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3. Love somebody who can make you laugh, who
kisses your forehead and who notices all your
flaws but choses to see past them.
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4. Love somebody who listens to whatever is on
your mind,who protects you and alwayz reminds
you how blessed they are to have found you.
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5. Love somebody who you can't stay mad at for
more than an hour because you miss speaking to
them, who knows every freckle on your face,
every stretch mark on your thighs, every scar and
every tear.
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6. Love somebody who you can plan your future
with,and most importantly love somebody who is
God fearing.
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7. And lastly dont forget to make them feel loved
in return .
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*If you agree with those 7 reasons i have listed above, Share to your friends.

TO THE BEAUTIFUL LADIES OUT THERE.
A big shout out to all the beautiful ladies who don't need to dress half naked to get a man's attention.stay class.
let me tell you this secret. we((guy).
know exactly what you possess,can draw them and even label the parts even if you're wearing a raincoat..so don't be deceived.
No real man will want to marry a lady who everybody have already seen what is supposed to be his most precious scene privately.
God made every woman beautiful exposing your body by wearing short dresses doesn't make you beautiful,it makes you cheap and also exposes you to Ebola.
‪#‎SECRET‬.
only the bad guys love girls on short.
dresses,the good guyz hate them.
thank you and God bless you all.

There is something very exciting about a man being able to mentally stimulate a woman. The kind of man that doesn't live behind his phone but actually picks it up to call the woman he is interested in so he can hold a beautiful conversation with her. Anyone can talk a good game through text messages because text messages are safe. It allows you time to think and respond perfectly instead of naturally responding from impulse. But when it comes to being on the phone with a woman, when you can listen and respond to her and establish a certain flow with her, it helps build a greater rapport. Her being able to hear your voice, allows her to be able to put a voice to the man she can grow more interested in. You can speak into her spirit and leave her with little jewels that will have her looking forward to the next phone conversation. She starts to think about your voice all day, and begins to wonder what you two will talk about next. I guess what I'm trying to say is, the good ones still enjoy a good phone conversation. And it's better for her to anticipate hearing your voice than for her to anticipate reading your text.

Appreciation is the key ingredient to cultivate healthy relationships. Healthy couples always appreciate each other in day-to-day life to show their commitment and love. They never miss an opportunity to give a loving appreciating remark to their partners.

Always Stay In Touch:

Healthy couples maintain their contact no matter how busy their schedules are. In our busy lives an unexpected text message, an admiring note or a phone call can have much deeper effects than we can realize.
Healthy couples always maintain their loving connection and don’t allow distances and busy routines to part them.
Being Happy is Their Priority:
For healthy couples being happy is much more important than being right. Leaving their egos behind they always strive to discover solutions. Instead of playing the blame game they choose compromise and compassion.

They Sleep Together:
Leave your arguments and battles behind before your crawl into bed. There are arguments and tensions but never take them with you to bed. Leave your negative emotions and anger behind.
Healthy couples suggest to always tell your partner that you love them before you go to sleep and this is especially applicable to the nights when u have an argument. A simple hug and a smile can result in sudden release of tension between couples.
Being Intimate:
Being intimate is essential to keep your relation alive. Healthy couples maintain their intimacy to prove that they cherish their relationship. Preserving your physical relation is vital for establishing healthy relation as a couple.

Being Patient And Respectful Towards Each Other:

No one is perfect. Even the healthiest couples are just two imperfect human beings. Being a perfect couple doesn’t mean that they are perfect in every way, in reality it is accepting and being patient to each other’s imperfections.

Healthy couples are always respectful towards each other’s shortcomings and they compliment limitations of their partner in a way that they look perfect as a couple.

A real man is not a person who can
impregnate a woman; any guy can also
impregnate a woman. Even a 17 year old boy
can impregnate a woman but that does not
make him a man.
A real man is not a person who is good in
bed. Any idiot can be good in bed.
A real man is not a person who beats his
wife/girlfriend. Infact it is only idiots that
beat their women.
A real man is a person who tolerates his
woman
A real man is a person who controls his
anger
A real man is the person who shows real
care and love to his woman
A real man is the person who knows how
to solve the crises and problems in his
relationship
A real man does not beat his woman
A real man is hardworking. He is not lazy
A real man can endure, persevere and be
patient
A real man can overlook the bad
behaviors of his woman
A real man corrects his woman with love.
Real men make their women happy.
Therefore, ladies, when choosing a man, date
real men only.
Marry real men only. If you are not happy in
your relationship now, that means your guy
is not a real man.!
Look beyond *** and money and go for
happiness and peace of mind.
—Do You Agree???

marriage is definitively one of the biggest decisions you can take in life. There are a million questions in our heads when we start thinking about marriage. “Can I spend the rest of my life with this person?”, “Am I going to be happy ten years down the road with this person?”, “Is this really a good decision or am I rushing it?” and so on. It could get pretty scary even for the strongest of couples because it’s real life, this isn’t a movie. Most couples get through with it happily, though, but I’ve seen a few relationships turn completely upside down after trying the knot.

Marriage is also a lot about age. I’ve seen people get married as early as 22 and I’ve also seen people get married after their thirties. So here’s a little quiz for all of you.

A woman’s job is never done. From sun up to sun down, most women have a ton of things to do along with keeping their man happy in a relationship. It makes a woman feel important and special when you take time to recognize all that she does. A simple,”Thank you for cooking dinner, I really appreciate it”, can put a smile on her face. No woman wants to be in a relationship that she feels invisible in. Recognizing her efforts is the very fuel that can inspire her to keep doing more for you.
She deserves safety and security.Whether you are providing a roof over her head or protection over her heart, every woman needs her safe haven. When a man can give a woman the reassurance that he will do anything to protect her heart, her well being and her spirit, it brings a certain level of peace over her. When a woman feels safe, she feels free. You can’t expect her to continue being your angel if you don’t create a heaven like environment for her to comfortably lay her head in.
She needs to know which certainty that she can trust her life partner.
A man will never reach the depths of a woman’s love if that woman cannot fully trust him. When a woman can lower her guard and love a man without holding anything back, that is truly when that man has earned all of her trust. It takes courage loving a man and sharing things with him that makes her sacred. Everyone doesn’t get to explore those levels of her love. You only reach that level of comfort with a woman when she can fully trust you. Earn her trust and you will tap into things that will inspire you in becoming a better man.
A woman needs to feel desired and loved.
A woman definitely needs two things. She needs to hear how much you love her, and she needs to see how much you love her. Every woman needs to feel like she is special and like she is the only woman in her man’s world. As a man, it is your responsibility to never leave your woman guessing or wondering how much you really do love her. She should be so moved by your love that it radiates off of her when she steps out in public. With most women, the thought and the effort you put into making them smile is truly what matters most. Whether you are planning a surprise dinner or planning to send her surprise flowers, these small things leave the biggest smiles on their heart. Express how much she means to you and how blessed you are to have her in your life. Don’t just say she’s irreplaceable, love her like she is irreplaceable and she will never stray away from you and your love. She deserves a man to be her best friend.
When you feel like you have your best friend in your relationship, that is a sign of a great relationship. Can she confide in you secrets that she has never told anyone? Can she trust that you will listen to her about anything in the world without judging her? Are you a man that she can cry with and laugh with? Being her best friend is like making a secret oath with her. You never share private conversations and private moments with anyone outside of your relationship. Being her best friend means that you will always be able to see the best in her even when she feels the opposite. Being a woman’s best friend is one of the best things that you can do for your relationship.

Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.
We all have experienced things in life that have given us a sort of thick skin, or as some may say pain that has caused up to "put up a guard". Protecting ourselves is just part of our human nature, naturally no one wants to be hurt, and when we realize the things that hurt us we tend to stay away from them, or if we do go around the things that have made us hurt before, we go around them skeptically, sometimes with the intent to cause those things the pain that they may have caused us.
Our natural human instincts of survival may be correlated with the way treat our relationships. Since many of us have been hurt, some of us go about relationships skeptically, and with the intentions of hurting someone before they may have a chance of hurting us. It is important to remember that keeping a guard is fine, but to also trust your heart. Remember that the world is still a beautiful place and there are still nice people in it, sometimes you just have to take a chance.

-She was a ******
-She was in love with God
-She was performing very good in her studies
-She wanted to be a well known Business woman
-be in a happy marriage
-She was a quiet n humble lady
-She was a good example in here society
Then this is how the trouble began..
-A boy approached her and proposed her
-He charmed her
-He promised her the world
-He said he can jump over the bridge for her
-He even lied that he can die for her
-She ran out of words
-She smiled like an angel because it was her first time, getting proposed she agreed
When days goesby
-He broke her virginity
-He impregnated her
-He ran away n nowhere to be found
-She drop out at school
-She ran out at home
-She was now a bad example at her society
-She gave birth to a fatherless child
-She dumped the child at the nearby river
-She killed herself
-It was over for her
HER DREAMS WERE SHATTERED
Moral Advice!
>> Don't let someone ruin your dreams just because of the word "LOVE". Before taking actions just think of the Outcomes and Consequences... ‪#‎BeWise‬ ‪#‎KnowWhatYou_Want‬

it doesn’t matter if the relationship lasted for a few days or went on for years, whether you got dumped or you’re the one who broke up, the thing is when you lose someone you were attached to at some level, it’s going to hurt, bad. Studies have shown that an emotional pain, specifically a heart-break, stimulates similar parts of your brain as physical pain. So, what do you do when you get physically hurt? Ignore it, suppress it or avoid looking at it? The fact of the matter is, it’s there and no matter how much you try to ignore it, it won’t stop hurting. Just like a visible wound takes time and effort to heal, so does emotional pain. You need to pick yourself up, help yourself recover from it, be amenable. Here is some advice which will help speed up the process.
1. Take your time and mourn
There is no such thing as ‘just get over it’, as much as we would all like it to exist, it doesn’t. You can’t just ask yourself to stop feeling something and your brain would oblige and the switch would go off. However, you can try and put a lid on it, but you will eventually break down and it will be harder regaining your strength from that. So don’t blame yourself for feeling sad, angry, hurt; whatever it is that you’re feeling, you are a human being not a robot, cry your heart out if you want to, just feel it! We all have different coping mechanisms, we recover at our own pace, so don’t compare your progress to someone else’s, don’t think you’re a weak person just because you’re taking longer than what you think is the ideal time to grieve, take as much time as you need, as long as you’re improving.
as hard as it might be,
you need to accept that it’s over and there is no going back. If you are the one who broke up, don’t try to rethink your decision, this happens when you start thinking about all the good times you had with your partner making all the reasons you broke up seem insignificant; or if you got dumped, don’t try scheming all the ways to get them back, you’ll lose your self-respect, try getting yourself back instead. Think of all the reasons you two didn’t work out, don’t obsess over it, make peace with it and make efforts to move in the forward direction instead of going backwards.
Let yourself be angry
Anger is the second most dominant feeling after a break up, the first is sadness of course. You might be angry at yourself for giving them so many chances, wasting your time, making mistakes etc or angry at them for hurting you, taking you for granted etc. Whatever the reason is, anger is an inevitable emotion after a split. What you need to do is, channel this anger in the right direction. Go running, get a punching bag or just scream and let it out. Getting over anger is very important, don’t be too aggressive and harm yourself or someone around you, give it a safe passage, just release it.
Vent out to someone close
Surround yourself with positive people, people who make you happy, who add value to your life. Happiness can be contagious. Also, talking about your feelings is important, so speak your heart out to someone you can trust, who is compassionate, who will understand your state and tell them everything you feel. Let them help you, don’t shut them out. People who mean well for you, will make every effort to make you feel better, don’t turn them down. Talk to them, spend time with them. Once you can talk about it without crying a river, know that you’re almost there.

Speak truthfully

It’s always better to say the truth now rather than living a lie and letting that lie get exposed later. I know what it feels like to be lied to, it’s not pretty, it’s horrible beyond measure. Honesty should always be one of the main factors of any relationship, and you need to be honest till the end, even if it means you’ll end up losing your relationship, it’s still much better than lying to the person you love, doesn’t matter how big or small the lie is, it’s still a lie and you’re still keeping it from them. Always speak truthfully and from the heart, those who know the importance of honesty will never leave you. Those who care more about themselves will probably walk away, but that’s for your own good.
Don’t disappear
One of the worst ways of breaking up with someone is by disappearing on them, by slowly fading away, don’t do that. You’ll give unwanted torture to someone by being selfish and scared. If you can’t make it work, either talk about fixing it or talk about a mutual breakup, running away is NOT an option. If you respect each other enough, give each other the courtesy of being open and honest about how the relationship is going and where it’s headed. Disappearing from the relationship isn’t going to solve anything, it’s only going to make it harder for both of you.
Don’t let anger take control

90% of breakups turn ugly because of anger, because one of the two people start letting anger take over them and just give in and lose control, don’t let that happen to you. While it’s pretty natural and expected to be angry at a situation like this, it’s highly unhealthy for both of you. I’ve seen a lot of people who talk things out without being angry, anger just ruins the entire point of trying to talk things out, it just wastes every effort and leaves people more angry and upset. Be calm and be gentle and kind with your words, you don’t want to have any negativity and you don’t want to have any regrets later. Trust me, you’ll hate yourself after a few months if you’re the one who got angry at the breakup. It’s a different and peaceful feeling when you know you didn’t lash out and you kept your cool, trust me.

Don’t involve a third person

If you’re thinking of bringing that one best friend and making them a part of this conversation, don’t, just don’t, it’s only going to end horribly for all of you. Keep in mind that it’s your relationship, it involves you and your partner and no one else, you’ve shared intimacy together, you’ve made memories together, you’ve cried and laughed with each other, do NOT ruin all of those things by bringing a third person in the middle, either to make your point heard or to try and fix the situation.

Don’t have mixed feelings, decide

One of the worst things people do to each other is drag the relationship out, to avoid the stress and pain of a breakup, don’t do that. Do not be in a dragged relationship because of emotions, come out of it because you want to be a much better person in life and you know that the relationship you’re in is only having negative effects on the two of you. Don’t have mixed feelings during the breakup, make up your mind once and for all and go with that decision. If you decide to break up, make up your mind about it and do it. If you decide to sort things out, do whatever is necessary to sort things out. Just don’t have mixed feelings about someone.

Don’t announce it, it’s your privacy

Don’t be that person who puts up a Facebook status as soon as their relationship ends, respect your privacy. Of course, you can talk to your close friends about it because you obviously need to share the pain and sorrow with someone, but just don’t announce it to the world. I’m pointing at you – person who changes their Facebook Relationship Status every two months. This is especially bad when the two of you suddenly decide to be together again, the number of questions and explanations you have to give everyone is going to be a pain and people will only make fun of you then. Avoid the pain, keep it to yourselves.
Don’t bring up the past
One of the worst things to do during a breakup is to bring up issues from the past, issues that had long been resolved and don’t even exist anymore, it’s painful. When you bring up even the smallest of issues, it’s going to create a new list of problems and it’s going to make you angry, which is going to lead to a pretty painful breakup with a lot of animosity and hate. Keep it simple, be very precise about how you feel and avoid the past AT ALL COSTS!

Expect it to be unpleasant

Like I said before, breakups are bad, even the word has pain in it, so expect them to be unpleasant. There is no such thing as a “happy breakup”, if you believe in a happy breakup then it means you’ve seen too many movies. Breakups are always going to be sad, even if they’re mutual and the two of you know that you tried your best, there’s still going to be a lot of grief and pain involved.

this is for people in broken relationships. Relationships that stand on such weak grounds that you don’t really know if you should give this another try or get out of it. A broken relationship is like a deep wound that is a result of constant blows to your soul and heart, unintentionally and at times, intentionally. It is a hard decision but don’t ever give up unless you’ve tried to make it work from every way possible because you don’t want that guilt to linger on after you have broken up. At times many relationships are fragile just because that’s the way they are. It could be a union of two extremely sensitive people or two extremely strong-headed people. So, at times, a few little changes can help you save that relationship.
4. REMIND YOURSELF OF THE PERSON YOU FIRST FELL IN LOVE WITH
You and your partner were not always like this. Remind yourself of the way your partner was, the way you fell in love with them. Over the period of time, small things condition us to adapt and change. Remember, these changes are a result of incidents and external factors in your relationship. Find that faith in your partner again. Believe that there is still the same amount of goodness and love in your partner than when you first met them.
3. STOP FIGHTING, START FORGIVING
You have been fighting for so long and nothing good or positive has come out of it, ever. Your relationship has just gotten worse. All those bad words, hurtful statements and raised voices will only act as those blows that I was talking about. It’s time you stop all of that. Now that you are trying to find the same faith in your partner, forgive them. Know that your partner didn’t mean to hurt you. It’s time you forgive them for hurting you so you can actually work on the things that have damaged to your relationship.
2. IT’S TIME TO COMMUNICATE
Most of us in relationships don’t realise that many issues can be resolved with the right kind of communication. The right kind of communication is when you keep all of your other issues afar from the current situation and address the problem in simple words. Remember not to use a statement that, you know, might offend your partner. Another important action that needs to come into play is to show support. Whether you agree at first or not. Have the patience and courtesy to listen to your partner, even if they are wrong, hear them out and then clear things. Most fights are usually just simple misunderstandings that develop into bigger and badder things.
1. COMMIT YOURSELF AGAIN
Reassure your partner that you still love them. No one in this world can tell your partner how much you love them. Not their friends, not your friends and not even this article. The only person who has the power to reassure this to your partner is YOU. Tell them that you are ready to let go of the things they did to you and ask for forgiveness for the things you did to them. There is no ego when you love someone. Don’t think that asking for forgiveness makes your point any less important. When you forgive your partner and ask for forgiveness, you are allowing them to let go of the things they have been holding on to.

In the end, try and find the spark and the love you both had in the beginning of your relationship. Trust me, it is not that hard if you put your mind to it. We have all been there, I have been there and I eventually learned the hard way so I know its easier said than done. But, Hey! It’s worth a try, your relationship is worth a try.
Have you been in a broken relationship?
If yes, how did you come out of it? Did you manage to fix it and bring it back to what it used to be? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!

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....* No1: A man was so jealous of his newly born baby that he put poison on the wife's ******* while she was asleep. The next day their driver died of poisoning.
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....No2: A man is dying of cancer, but keeps telling people he is dying of AIDS. His son asked his Dad why. He answered, "so that when I am dead, no one will sleep with your mum."
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..... No3: A lady lost three ******* in her house and blamed her maid in front of the husband. Maid said "sir. you are my witness you know I never wear *******!"
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...... No4: Couple is having a quickie and their 6 year old catches them. Son says: "What are you doing?" Ask the son. Father: "I’m putting petrol in your Mom." Son: " Which means Mom’s engine is taking too much petrol cause Mr. Zwane just put some in yesterday!" Mother fainted!!!!
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...... No5: A man went to the pub with his wife. When he left for the counter to buy drinks a ******* approached his wife & whispered, "You must DEMAND cash before ***, I know him he doesn't pay.
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....... No6: An 8 year old boy is accused of ****. In court his lady lawyer holds his **** out as evidence saying, "Your Honour see this, can he ***** with this tiny tot?"The boy whispers, "Don't shake it, we'll lose the case!"

Thank you for leaving me after my miscarraige and replacing me with a woman who already has a child. Thank you for that insult. Thank you for not being there during those nights that feels like hell. Where I was in pain,broken for losing my baby,falling apart and lost. I didn't just lost my baby but I also lost the man who I thought would never hurt and leave me. You just threw away 6 years relationship instead of trying to fix it. Thank you for your selfishness. It's okay. I completely understand. And thank you for letting me know how miserable are you now while I'm happy.
I have moved on. I'm sorry..

i heard you like bad boys,those guys who act like they don't care about you'which is making you try harder to make them like you,those guys who wouldn't reply to your text until later on,which makes u wait around and miss him more,those guys who act distance from you,which is makes you try harder to get their attention.those guys who know they can get lot of girls which makes you more afraid to lose them,those guys who would show you they're interested on day then act different the next day which make you confused to take the decision to leave him.those guys who can make you fall for them but they can care less,which is making you stuck and not able to move on cause you care too much,has anyone told you that you deserve better than that.you probably have and you know what?its about time you realize that.if a guy likes you he'll meet you half way simple as that.don't settle for a bad boy when you deserve a good man

sincerely
the guy that cares

dear guys dont flip out when your girl wonders who your with or what your doin,it means she cares and she dont want to loose you to someone else.

dont let loneliness drive you back into the arms of someone who you know doesnt care about you be careful of what you choose .

When she gives up on you, it's obvious; . 1. She will not try to catch your attention. . 2. She will not fight for you anymore. . 3. She won't reply your message as quickly anymore. . 4. She won't try to keep the conversation going anymore. . 5. She will not care anymore. . 6. She's no longer jealous. . 7. She will flirt and talk to other guys. . 8. She's no longer care if you care or not anymore. . 9. She's no longer goes to your profile and whine to people about how happy you're, talking to other girls. . 10. She will give up on trying to make you love her, because she finally realize that she deserves better. . -And you will miss her. Miss the way she cared about you. Miss the way she loved you. And you have lost her. . So don't take any girls for granted, if you love her, let her know before she gives up!
Be the peffect guy to your woman befor someone do it.

Common Mistakes Women make when discovering an affair
When you have just discovered that your man is cheating on you...please do NOT do the following:-
1.
Demanding to know about the other woman: The truth may hurt you. Can you handle the truth?
2.
Insulting the other woman: You are giving her power, she doesnt deserve. Especially if you insult her to your husband e.g. how is your **** doing?
3.
Forcing him to choose, thinking he will choose you: There is no competition here-you will lose this one! She is new and they are in the honeymoon phase, you on the other hand are an old habit.
4.
Calling him excessively to check on him like a prisoner: He may start to avoid your calls even if he is not doing anything bad just to protect his freedom.
5.
Beating the other woman up: You are creating sympathy for her. Now she looks like your victim to him. With this one you are still giving her power.
6.
Threatening to leave just to scare him: You are giving h im ideas. You make the grass seem greener on the other side.
7.
Crying: He wont feel sympathy for you-he will feel burdened by the tears.
8.
Snooping: Dont hurt yourself unnecessarily. You will find what you are looking for. Dont break into his e-mails. Dont scroll his cellphone and dont go through his messages.
9.
Being in denial even though the signs are there: Do something about your knowledge or you will make yourself sick. Some diseases are stress-related. Deal with your issues; dont bottle them up.
10.
Telling his mother: For crying out loud! This is his mother!
11.
Committing suicide: Seriously, once youre gone, youre gone!
Put the phone down.
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It is wise to leave his phone alone.when you are hurting, deal with your disappointment instead of going through his phone only to find more truths that will hurt you.

Dear Women:
Do you want your man to love, respect and stay faithful to you alone? I have a love portion you can give him. The ingredients of the love portion include:
1. Always look beautiful and attractive.
2. Be diligent and always make sure the house is tidy.
3. Cook delicious meals for him at all times and always include his favourite food.
4. Give him good *** and romance.
5. Always pray for him.
6. Be humble and Submissive.
7. Avoid quarrelling with him and if there is any form of quarrel, always settle it before the next day.
8. You must be able to ENDURE. A woman that cannot endure will never last in a man's house.
9. Love his family members like your own family.
10. Always contribute to the development of the home. Don't have the mentality that it is the man that must buy everything. He will respect you for this.
NOTE THAT: Even If you use the most powerful charm on a man and your character is on a zero level, his eyes will surely be opened one day.

Dear Ladies
Common Mistakes Women make when discovering an affair
When you have just discovered that your man is cheating on you...please do NOT do the following:-
1.
Demanding to know about the other woman: The truth may hurt you. Can you handle the truth?
2.
Insulting the other woman: You are giving her power, she doesnt deserve. Especially if you insult her to your husband e.g. how is your **** doing?
3.
Forcing him to choose, thinking he will choose you: There is no competition here-you will lose this one! She is new and they are in the honeymoon phase, you on the other hand are an old habit.
4.
Calling him excessively to check on him like a prisoner: He may start to avoid your calls even if he is not doing anything bad just to protect his freedom.
5.
Beating the other woman up: You are creating sympathy for her. Now she looks like your victim to him. With this one you are still giving her power.
6.
Threatening to leave just to scare him: You are giving h im ideas. You make the grass seem greener on the other side.
7.
Crying: He wont feel sympathy for you-he will feel burdened by the tears.
8.
Snooping: Dont hurt yourself unnecessarily. You will find what you are looking for. Dont break into his e-mails. Dont scroll his cellphone and dont go through his messages.
9.
Being in denial even though the signs are there: Do something about your knowledge or you will make yourself sick. Some diseases are stress-related. Deal with your issues; dont bottle them up.
10.
Telling his mother: For crying out loud! This is his mother!
11.
Committing suicide: Seriously, once youre gone, youre gone!
Put the phone down.
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It is wise to leave his phone alone.when you are hurting, deal with your disappointment instead of going through his phone only to find more truths that will hurt you.

-.A GIRLkeeps her password on her cellphone, while a WOMAN is confident enough to say “darling can you answer that for me?”!! -.A GIRL has pride after arguments, a WOMAN has heart & emotions. -.A GIRL tells her man all the things he does wrong, a WOMAN acknowledges her man’s hardwork!! -.A GIRL run on the streets & chill with her friends, while a WOMAN enjoys time with her man planning ahead for their future!! -.A GIRL exchange words with her man, a WOMAN keeps quite & listen to her man. -.A GIRL complains about spending too much time with her man, a WOMAN plans vacations & getaways because she is wise enough to notice tomorrow isn’t promised!! -.A GIRL tells her man he is cute, & a WOMAN tells her man he is handsome. -.A GIRL takes her man to the house, & a WOMAN takes her man home. -.A GIRL tells the whole world her heart is broken, & a WOMAN keeps her life in line, with tears in her eyes she still manages to say nah! I am fine. -.A GIRL will read this & think this is about her, & a WOMAN will read this & thoroughly acknowledge what she needs to fix in her relationship

Eat your words
Thought you said you don't want me anymore
Then Why do i get miscalls from you
Thought you told me not to contact you
Then why do i find pokes of my Facebook
Did you not say you don't care anymore
Why then ask if i am still well
Did i wake OK, am i alright?
Why ask?
If i recall i was your worse choice
All that i brought was hardship and tears
If i was such a bad lover why cant you forget me
All i was to you was a bad dream. Wake up phela now
Why do you still call home to find out if i am home
Why chat to my sister?
What is that you want to achieve because what i was is named a failure to your life?
What i did good was to hurt you
Thought you said you want to forget about me
Why then you still have my pictures
What is good that you will see now?
Thought life will be better since we are no more
Can a loser change?
Can a wasteful man change?
Can you see good in *******?
Can you just stop, stop, your words can not be reversed
Whether you said them of anger
Whether you meant them
Whether you never meant them
Whether
Just forget me
Enjoy your new journey without me
Enjoy the single life
Just forget about me
Don't remember me
Don't think about me
Think about you
Think about your future without me and enjoy your future without me

Don’t fall in love with a guy just
because he is rich, handsome and
popular. Fall in love with a guy
who loves to stay up at night just
to see you breathing or to see you
smiling while you are dreaming.
Fall in love with a guy who loves
the way you sip your coffee or the
way you chew your food. Fall in
love with a guy who loves the way
you smile or the way you wrinkle
up your nose. Fall in love with a
guy who loves to hear your
heartbeats, your cute little stories,
your silly jokes and your laughter.
Fall in love with a guy who hates
to even blink his eyes because he
doesn’t want to miss a single
thing about you. A guy who thinks
that every single moment spent
with you is priceless. Fall in love
with a guy who thinks you are his
only treasure and he just can’t
afford to lose you at any cost.
This is the guy who will make you
see your real worth and love you
till the end of his life. Never let
him go…

We've been together for almost 3 years. 3 years of cheating, lies and fights. You killed me, you destroyed me, you made me think that I was wrong and not you. When i found out that you were cheating on me and that you were still talking to that girl I confronted you and you and told you it was over but Then you came back crying and saying that you were sorry etc. and I forgive you. I was so blinded. I gave you everything that I could. And in the end, you told me it was over because you found someone else.
At first i was sad and i admit it I even wanted to die. But then, i realized one thing. This was the only good decision that you took related to me. And I will never be thankful enough because thanks to you, I am now feeling alive, and better then i ever did
***** yourself.
- Your lovely ex.

On Saturday the 3rd. Me and my friend attended a birthday party with a gathering of about 40 people. My friend sat at the front seat for a selfish benefit and I sat at the back. A lady started distributing food. She started from the
back and unfortunately, it didn't get to
people sitting at the front. Another lady
started sharing the drinks, she started from the front but unfortunately he (my friend) had already moved to sit at the back with me. Again the drink didn't get to people at the back. He was so furious that he stood up to leave but then he saw three ladies each with a big bowl.
This time, he tried to be wise by sitting
in the middle. One of the ladies started the sharing from the front, the second lady started distributing from the back. The two ladies were sharing fried chicken .When they got to the middle where he was seated, it got finished AGAIN. Feeling so frustrated, he bent his head, putting his face in his hands but then the third lady tapped him and stretched her bowl for him to pick. He stretched and put his hands inside the bowl. Guess what was in the bowl? TOOTHPICKS. LOL
Moral Of The Story: Do not try to position yourself in life, allow God to put you in the right place otherwise you will wrongfully position yourself
for toothpicks. Have faith in HIM that he will put you in a right place in his rightful time.

healthy relationships can never be developed overnight. Conscious efforts, thoughtful gestures, quality time and sacrifices are the keys to become a healthy couple. Developing strong relation with your partner demands effort and time. And to make your relation everlasting, a consistent positive approach is a must.
Healthy couples always keep a positive approach towards their relation with each other. Healthy couples build their relationship with everyday efforts. They agree to the fact that relationships need regular nurturing.
At times we get caught in the negative spur of everyday life. We are having problems at job, finances are failing, kids are sick, arguments with colleagues and many such turmoils of daily life influence our emotions and ultimately our relationships.
Healthy couples always focus on the positive qualities of the partner in rough times. Whenever you are frustrated, make a conscious effort to focus on the things you admire and appreciate about your spouse.

If a husband and wife don't quarrel or if a
husband and wife have never quarreled
before, then it means that they are not
telling each other the truth. If a boyfriend
has never quarreled with his girlfriend
before, it means they are deceiving each
other. What am trying to say is that two
couples must have a misunderstanding or
quarrel. It is normal. But what is not normal
is malice. I have seen cases where a
husband and his wife don't greet each
other for one week and yet they are living in
the same house. I have seen cases where
husband and wife don't talk to each other
for many days because of a small quarrel
that happened. I have also seen a case
where a man refused to eat his wife's food
because his wife quarreled with him. A
boyfriend will not call his girlfriend for many
weeks because of one little misunderstanding.
Why? Because of ego. Nobody wants to
be the first to apology. This is very bad.
Malice destroys marriage and relationship.
When both of you had a quarrel, do not
nurse the anger for up to 24 hours. If your
partner did not apology, be the first to say
"am sorry" even if you are not at fault. Just
do it for the sake of peace. Two wrongs
cannot make a right. Save your relationship.
Any man who refuses to eat his wife's food
because of a quarrel is a boy. The man is not
mature at all. Malice is childish. Mature
people quarrel and settle and play together
again on that same day. Save your
marriage.
Save your relationship.

22 WAYS ON HOW TO KEEP A RELATIONSHIP
1. Build trust
2. Be honest
3. Be faithful
4. Be considerate
5. Respect each other
6. Become best friends
7. Be proud of one another
8. Be there for one another
9. Bear each other’s burden
10. Make time for one another
11. Communicate to each other
12. Trust and always pray to God
13. Accept each other’s mistakes
14. Appreciate each other’s effort
15. Take time and study each other
16. Love each other
unconditionally
17. Refresh your love with surprises
18. Talk about things, both good and bad
19. Know that you won’t always be happy
20. Know that having arguments are normal
21. Forgive and forget each other’s mistakes
22. Leave the past to the past, which
include ex’s.

personally hate drama, creating drama is one of the most useless ways to waste time, there is nothing to gain from drama and people just get hurt in the end. But some people LOVE drama, some people just don’t feel right unless they create or witness drama around them and they love to gossip. You need to keep kind and pure people around you, people who truly care, who don’t feed on the agony and sorrow of others and are just happy with their own lives. People who worry more about the latest rumor or the latest fight someone had are the same people who don’t have lives of their own to begin with, it’s best to keep a safe distance from such people. You definitely don’t want such people around.

4. The liars

People who love to lie are the same people who will never find true happiness or true love in life, because they don’t know the meaning of anything being “true” since they’re so used to lying. They don’t have a true identity, they are impossible to read and they always get away with lying. Don’t get me wrong, everybody lies every now and then, but no one should just love lying and live by it, that’s wrong on so many levels. Be around people who would rather tell the truth and face the consequences than those people who just love to lie and hide things only to save their names, these sort of people also love blaming others for their own mistakes, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.

fore you guys start reading this, I would like to give you a brief overview of what it’s about. First of all,  I think it’s extremely unhealthy and can only lead to bad things even when you’re in the happiest of relationships. A week ago, I received a very detailed message in the page’s inbox, the first words were “My Confession”. It was from a man who wanted to share his mental weight with someone, anyone. So I started reading it, and it made me tear up after each line. This is about a man (who wishes to remain anonymous), a man who spied on his girlfriend because of his insecurities and trust issues, but the way it ends is just brutal. I’ve edited a few parts out, parts that were a little too much to handle. Believe me, editing this entire piece wasn’t easy, but the guy wanted it published, he wanted to world to see the dark side of relationships, and so here it is. I hope you guys have an easier time reading it than I did while editing it. It’s going to be in his own words, exactly how he sent it (with a few parts cut out because of certain restrictions).

My Confession: I spied on my girlfriend for a month, she’s my ex now

Hey “A” and “Z”, I’ve been an avid fan of yours for over two years now. I just LOVE the way you talk about relationships and how pure they are, it kind of burns my heart sometimes because I never received that purity, all I got was trauma and hatred out of love. I don’t know you guys personally but I love your work and I know you guys help people out too while keeping things anonymous. I would like to send in my confession, confession of spying on my girlfriend for a month. This wasn’t easy, writing all of this down just reminded me of what I went through, but I badly want to share it with someone. I actually want the world to know that relationships aren’t all “happy and nice”, some relationships are straight up brutal! While I gave it my all, it just wasn’t enough, and I had to find the truth through different means, means I’m not proud of today but I’m at a better place knowing that I’m not being made a fool of anymore.

Her name was *. We met through work, she used to work in the same place as I. We started off being very normal friends. Slowly but surely, our conversations started becoming meaningful, they went from being “just about work” to “about life”. This is where she started showing me her weak side, and it was pretty weak. I believe that when a woman shows you her vulnerabilities, she wants you to be in her life. And after a few months, I started having feelings for her, they just kind of developed on their own. I started noticing the increase in the number of calls, messages, hangouts etc. It was all happening so naturally and I was falling deeper in love with her. At this point, I was still too afraid to ask her out because we had a good friendship going and I didn’t want to ruin it. But this had its toll on me, I started getting possessive about her, it started bothering me. She used to have this other friend at work, he was better looking than I was, and I’d always been pretty insecure about my looks, so I started creating a distance from her and thought she’d be better off without me (yeah, I’m pretty pessimistic about myself).

After a few days, she noticed the change in the way I talk to her and she started complaining. That’s when she showed me the first sign of “having feelings” for me. That’s when I realised that I stand a chance and I shouldn’t be afraid. So, after a lot of hours of overthinking, I asked her out. To my surprise, she said yes instantly! I was over the roof! I can’t even describe the feeling in words, I just can’t. I was euphoric, I hadn’t felt such happiness before in my life. To be accepted by someone you have feelings for is a huge feeling, more than words can describe. So we started going out. Our entire office knew about our relationship, even the “good looking guy” (keep him in mind, he is important to this). We were crazy together! Exactly how you guys describe “good and healthy relationships” in your articles and page, we were exactly like that. We used to read your articles together and tell each other how happy we are and how many good qualities match.

Things were going pretty good for us. We used to have our usual fights and arguments, but they were pretty simple and used to sort of fix themselves. It was heaven for me, I’m not kidding, heaven. It was surreal. Even after 7 months of dating, we never got bored of each other. Things were just awesome. Except for one thing, she had a habit of using her phone a lot, even when we were hanging out, she used her phone 90% of the time in intervals. I used to complain about it from time to time but it never used to work. Technology these days, it can work both ways, for both good and evil. With apps like Snapchat, Whatsapp etc. you can basically do anything with anyone without the world knowing about it, it’s that scary.



I slowly started getting paranoid when I noticed that she’s online on Whatsapp even after we are done talking and we’ve said our “goodnights” and “I love yous”. Her “Last Seen” was off so I never knew when she was actually sleeping. I never discussed this with her but I spoke to a friend about it. He said it’s nothing. He said that it’s probably a bug that shows the wrong status of being online. And I wanted to believe that, so I trusted in that statement and let it go. But deep down, my paranoia was still growing more every day. But believe me, I tried fighting it as much as I could. I even started getting “busy” tones more often when I called her. She used to tell me she was talking to her brother (who lived in another state). And I used to try to believe her.

One day, it happened. We were out for dinner and she had gone to the bathroom, this time she didn’t take her phone with her (she always used to take it with her). My heart started racing because I badly wanted to have a look inside that phone, I wanted to see if something was being hidden from me, If I was being lied to. But I also didn’t want to be more paranoid, so I tried fighting myself. But after a few seconds, I justified it in my head. I told myself that I’m probably not going to find anything, and then I’m probably going to be mad at myself for looking and it’ll all go smoothly. It didn’t go that way. I opened her phone up (it didn’t have a passcode on it), and I went straight to Whatsapp. I found a very long and intimate conversation she was having with the same good looking guy from the office. It went on and on, in great detail. They used to meet up, she used to go over to his place (while I was told that she’s going over to a friend’s house). It was all there, right in my hands, a year’s worth of relationship down the drain. A year’s worth of feelings down the drain. It was bad, my hands were shaking and I couldn’t feel anything for a few minutes. But I wanted to catch her cheating, so I got a grip of myself, held my tears and put the phone back.

And that’s when I started “spying” on her. I used to be very aware of what she was saying, of where she’s going etc. I was heartbroken but I tried my best to be the same in front of her, to not show any sign of sorrow or regret but it was killing me inside to not push her out of my life. It was disgusting. One fine day, she told me she was going to her “friend’s” house. And I actually followed her in a friend’s car. I followed her all the way to the house. It was the same house, the house I was hoping it not to be. The guy’s house, the good looking guy. After ten minutes of waiting outside, I went and knocked at the door. It was him, with a very weird smile on his face, as he looked at me in a state of shock. I forced myself inside (at this point I wasn’t even feeling normal anymore, I was filled with rage) and saw her in his bedroom. I just stood there, looking at her in silence, the tears started flowing right out in front of her and I left, without saying a word. I instantly blocked her from every possible means of communication. She tried contacting my friends, but none of them let her get near me.

It’s been five months since that incident, and I still have a lot of questions that I need answers to, but I just don’t want to spend another minute with her, I just don’t want to waste another feeling on her. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to love again, but I surely won’t let anyone play me for a fool again. So, for everyone who’s reading this, please don’t let your feelings go to someone who doesn’t deserve them. Please don’t get cheated on. And for those who have similar experiences, you’re not alone.

Thank you guys for reading this, I would be very happy if you posted this on your website, I really want to know what people have to say about this. Thank you.

Talk to me

If you guys have anything to say to him, please let him know in the comments below, he is going to read them all. As always, stay blessed and keep the love alive.

If you are SINGLE and keep on saying "I DON'T TRUST MEN OR WOMEN!" Remember your mates are getting married every Saturday. Let me ask you, are they marrying spirits? Wise up!
2. If you are MARRIED and keep saying "I HATE THIS MARRIAGE!" OK! Is it not married people like you that are celebrating Gold, Silver and even Platinum jubilee?
3. If you keep on ranting, ''I'M LEAVING MY MAN, HE CHEATED ON ME!" Please, go to town and see all the fine, cute, ****, hot, hungry and desperate chicks waiting to ****** your man's money and property, they don't even mind sharing. Make it work, my friend!
4. Stop saying "I HATE MY JOB!" Look! 20 million people are jobless and can't even find any not to talk of keeping it! Do you want to join them?
5. You keep saying "I HATE WHERE I LIVE!" Oh please! tears Try visiting those locations that are flooding now, people leaving in tin/zinc shacks in winter or people living/sleeping under the bridge at night and you will be grateful to God that you even have a place to stay!
6. Some say "I AM TIRED OF THIS LIFE!" Well, go to the hospital and see people fighting for their lives! Go to the mortuary and take a look then tell me what you feel after that! The point is, be positive and believe in God, that's all that matters. Be Blessed.
CHERISH EVERY MOMENT OF YOUR LIFE: To realize the value of a sister/brother ask someone Who doesn't have one.
To realize the value of ten years: Ask a newly divorced couple.
To realize the value of four years: Ask a graduate.
To realize the value of one year: Ask a student who Has failed a final exam.
To realize the value of nine months: Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.
To realize the value of one month: Ask a mother Who has given birth to a premature baby.
To realize the value of one week: Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of one minute: Ask a person Who has missed the train, bus or plane.
To realize the value of one second: Ask a person Who has survived an accident. Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have.
Remember. Hold on tight to the ones you love! And don't forget the one who sent it to you! Have a stress free moment in your life.
I hope you will reflect on this.
God Bless Us All and have a wonderful day .

when i say i love you more
,i don't mean i love you more than you love me.i mean
i love you more than the bad ahead for us.
,i love you more than the fight we will ever had
,i love you more than the distance between us
,i love you more than the obstecle that could come betwwen us
,i love you the most

"You had *** with her on a first date?".
> I don't care,you are just her ex and now she's with me.
• "She's not beautiful, she is fat and she has stretch marks".
> well , To me she is perfect & that's what matters.. You can talk.
• "She used to date this other sugar daddy and she has many ex's".
> Thats her past and I dont care
about that because now I'm her only guy.
• "She had an abortion while she was in High School."
> look She had her own reasons, so thats none of your business and I wont dump her for what she
did in the past.
• "She used to go clubbing a lot, with the guys."
> so what!! you think she is a bi*? well she's my girlfriend
now.
•"She got pregnant when she was 17, what a shame"
> look, you dont know her story,Stop judging other people as
if your life is perfect.
Moral: 1. never judge anyone by their past activities.
2. Never let anyone's opinion stop you from dating the person who makes you happy.
3. stop letting people make you feel ashamed of your scars. –
4. Scars remind us that our past is real, and that we have grown beyond it. Every scar has a story.
5. Don’t be afraid to tell it and own it.
6. Stop letting people use your past to poison your present. –
7. Life is too short to tirelessly struggle with old news and
those who refuse to let it go.
8. Some people cannot stand that
you’re moving on with your life and so they will try to drag
your past to catch up with you.
No matter what, people will always talk.
Anyway Let them Talk my love i don't care ngithanda wena wedwa.
as long as she/he loves you let them talk is yours they have they don't want to see people happy cause they are not happy in their relationship.

in life you will realize the is a roll to everyone you meet,some will test you,some will use you,some you ill love you and,some will teach you.but the one that is truly important   are the one who brings out the best in you,they are the rare and amazing people who remind you why its with it..................

the best part having a relationship is getting to call the person or lay down next to them.and tell them all the crazy thinks that happened to you all day long.and in the end that's what it's about kids.its not about ***,its not about money that they give you or whatever,its not about how beautiful they look,its about can they listening to you talk an hours,and hours about stupit shirt that doesn,t matter

im in love with your smile
im in love with your voiceim in love with your body
im in love with your laugh
im in love with youreyes
im in love with you

We all want to be happy and in love one day, at least that's the goal. We all want to eventually find that life partner that makes our life a lot easier to live. And just because you haven't come across that person yet, It does not mean that person does not exist. Sometimes God will hide you both from each other because you both are truly not ready to love. You are not unlovable. You are not unwanted. You are a diamond. But your problem is, You want God to put you out for display when he hasn't finished polishing you yet. Your life partner deserves you at your absolute best and vice versa. And the only way you'll make your next relationship your last relationship, Is by not rushing something that you want to last forever.

Most of the time, relationships don’t work out because you realise they’re not serving you right. But this realisation strikes you during the relationship, which ultimately leads to heartbreak. To avoid something of the sort, think about what you want from a partner and a relationship, when you’re still single. This way you’d end up with what you’ve always wanted.

Learn from other’s experiences

You may be single, but the people around you, friends and family may be in healthy, long-term relationships. Find out how they’ve made it so far and what their secrets to a healthy relationship are. You can learn best from your own mistakes, but observation helps too. You can notice the things that can make relationships last and how healthy couples work.

Be aware of your mistakes

Your past relationship ended for a reason, and you must be equally responsible for it. You can’t place all the blame on the other person. Even if they were on the wrong, you must’ve made some wrong choices too. Only when you realise your mistakes and own up to them you will be able to keep yourself from repeating them in the future and ruining a potential relationship.



Appreciate the good in you

Making mistakes or wrong decisions does not make you a horrible person, it just makes you human. You can’t go back in time and change anything. Let the past be. If you regret having done or said something, apologise and make it a point to never do it again. You have your vices, but you have your virtues as well. Don’t beat yourself up over something that’s now history. You’re not all that bad. If you don’t realise your strengths, no one else will!

When a girl ignores your message twice, leave her alone. She isn't blind, she just chose to ignore it or possibly indisposed at the time. There's no need sending more messages.
2: When a girl accept your request. Seriously typing "Thanks for accepting" on her wall is lame. Do it in her inbox. Some of you get ignored when you type that crap on their walls.
3: You don't need to be a male Love Peddler. Don't woo every random chic on your list. Some are good enough to be just friends with you. Get to know her first and win her trust.
4: As I usually stress, don't be a thirsty dude on a girl's post. If the post is nice, simply hit "like"and move on. If you need to comment, make it brief and interesting. Don't go begging her to add you.
5: If the picture is beautiful, like it and give a simple compliment. If it's not, there's no need to lie to get her attention.
6: When chatting you don't spend your whole time telling a girl how beautiful she is, a hundred other dudes tell her everyday. They find it boring when you join the train.
7: You have those chicks who have never liked, shared or commented on any of your posts. They also don't reply your messages and comments on theirs. Please man, why haven't you deleted them? You be their slave?
8: If you find yourself always starting the conversation with a particular person, like you're always the first to message her, stop for a while. If she doesn't notice, you're not important to her...Leave her alone.
9: If you guys don't roll, don't tag her to your pictures. She might find it offensive.
10: The lesser of you, the better for you. When you are all over her wall, all over all her posts and all over all her pictures commenting and liking everything, you are less appreciated because you are acting thirsty.
11: When you compliment a ******* her picture and another person compliments the same picture, and the girl thanks the other person and skips your name, please remove your comment. It wasn't necessary....
Hope this post makes someone's day...

You are 25 and still a ******, much
respect... But don't judge those
who are not... You are 18 and
pregnant, I still respect you... You
had an abortion, who am I to judge!!
You had your reasons..and I
respect you!! You are single.. Your
choice and I respect that.. You are
H.I.V positive... I don't know how
you got it!! (You might have been
*****) so who am I to judge.. I
respect you.. You are Gay/Lesbian I
respect U for who U are.. I respect
everyone irrespective of their
situation.. Why judge someone
because of their past/choice, no
one knows what your future holds..
No one is perfect. We were all born
to make mistakes.. Life doesn't
come with an instruction manual
but we must learn from our
mistakes or others mistakes.....

Sometimes you are
unsatisfied with your life,
while many people in
this world are dreaming
of living your life..
A child on a farm sees
a plane fly overhead &
dreams of flying. But,
A pilot on the plane sees
the farmhouse & dreams
of returning home.
That's life!! Enjoy yours...
If wealth is the secret to
happiness, then the rich
should be dancing on the
streets. But only poor kids
do that.
If power ensures security,
then officials should walk
unguarded. But those who
live simply, sleep soundly.
If beauty and fame bring
ideal relationships, then
celebrities should have
the best marriages.
Live simply, Walk humbly,
and love genuinely..!
All good will come back
to you...!

Before you think of saying an unkind
word– think of someone who can’t
speak.
.
Before you complain about the taste
of your food– think of someone who
has nothing to eat.
.
Before you complain about your
husband or wife– think of someone
who is crying out to God for a
companion.
.
Today before you complain about
life– think of someone who went too
early to the grave.
.
Before you complain about your
children– think of someone who
desires children but they’re barren.
.
Before you argue about your *****
house, someone didn’t clean or
sweep– think of the people who are
living in the streets.
.
Before whining about the distance
you drive– think of someone who
walks the same distance on foot.
.
And when you are tired and complain
about your job– think of the
unemployed, the disabled and those
who wished they had your job.
.
But before you think of pointing the
finger or condemning another–
remember that not one of us are
without sin and we all answer to one
maker.
And when depressing thoughts seem
to get you down– put a smile on
your face and thank God you’re alive
and still around.