Dear Rosie,
It's true a large part of our character is shaped by our genes but we still have a conscious choice to become the person we want to be.
Most creative people tend to be introspective and some are melancholic too.
Love of our self and others makes us lose our egocentricity and we warm up to life's possibilities, beauty and wonders.
Life is never static and at every bend we can carve our own paths to find meaning and work towards self-fulfilment-
we are free agents and we always have choices.
If we have known suffering, heartaches, loneliness and alienation,
we will emerge stronger, kinder, more compassionate and, slowly and patiently, we will mature spiritually and come fruitfully to our own--
with this self-discovery, we will be reborn and no future adversity can ever perturb our equanimity and tranquillity.
May you find the peace and joy that you so well deserve
from a fellow-writer