five things to never do...
eight traits to know if you're...
three ways to get to...
sixteen methods to be sure...
if he does these dozen...
when she acts like this...
nineteen things you never knew about...
ten different ways to kiss...
it's wearying and harrowing,
it's worrying and maddening,
it's listing all the little things
that really aren't mattering.
all designed to make us put the blame
on others for our troubles,
all designed to make us feel better
about all our faults and foibles.
and in the end,
we feel worse because,
we are not treating others
with tenderness and love.