William Saroyan said, "I ruined my life by marrying the same woman twice."
there will always be something to ruin our lives, William, it all depends upon what or which finds us first, we are always ripe and ready to be taken.
ruined lives are normal both for the wise and others.
it is only when that life ruined becomes ours we realize then that the suicides, the drunkards, the mad, the jailed, the dopers and etc. etc. are just as common a part of existence as the gladiola, the rainbow the hurricane and nothing left on the kitchen shelf.