I say “tomato” You say “toe-mah-toe” I say “I want to pierce my nose” You say “don’t you dare scare that ivory skin” I say “ I want to be a poet” You say “but that doesn’t make much income” I say “I am never having a baby” You say “you’ll meet a nice man, settle down, and change your mind” I wear this silver pentacle Around my throat like a noose String me up and hang me Like my sisters from Salem Condemn me because I don’t fit In the box labeled “Christian” on your questionnaire Call me a ****** for finding the beauty in another woman’s curve Brand me a ***** just for existing Pull at my heartstrings Like a puppeteer Guide my every movement Cut out my vocal cords and replace them with yours After all, you know best right If I dye my hair a color that isn’t Blonde, black, or brunette I’ll never land a job If I don’t quit with this feminist **** No man will ever want me You’re only looking out for me right If you know so much about me Tell me who I am Tell me how I felt when I was thirteen And stealing my brother’s straightedge To carve Jack-O-Lantern faces into my upper thighs Tell me how I felt when my mother Grabbed my cheeks and told me To pop my pimples When she asked me if I ever wanted to be beautiful As if I wasn’t already Tell me how I felt when I sat across my sister In a mental hospital After she gorged herself on unknown pills And she said “Don’t ever die. Dying isn’t fun” Tell me how I felt when my parents Showered me in gifts After I finally told them I was depressed Like they were trying to buy back my happiness Tell me how I felt when the boy With the beautiful smile and cigarette stained breath Stuck his hand into my ******* And whispered “You know you want it” Tell me how I felt when my body froze with fear When early onset rigor mortis snaked through my muscles When I clamped my knees together And denied him access to my body Tell me how I felt when He pushed his blushing appendage into my mouth After I said no And how I felt when I kept my lips sealed How I let him get away with it If you are such an expert on my landscape Pinpoint all my scars and beauty marks and moles Locate all the intimate areas my fingertips explored Tell me how often I shave my legs Tell me how much pride I feel when I remember to put on deodorant in the morning Draw a map of all my Forests, canyons, and lakes Prove to me you really know me Prove that you’re really looking out for me Prove your advice And remember No good deed goes unpunished And if you still maintain that you know what's best Look me in the eyes And tell me who I am