instead of running the orphanage, your husband has been going to movie after movie.  he no longer acts like a child in bed.  his crying seems attached to sadness at both ends.  his mother keeps calling when he’s not home.  she’s never met his father.  his father calls from the same number.  you want to tell him but need his son’s blessing.  your own kids are full of woe.  they laugh so hard about it their poor stomachs skip meals 101.  when you visit the ATM it’s to put money in an account for a friend who married up.  it’s not you on the cross where your water breaks.