God has a man for you, not a boy This idea is that you need to grow a man who is still his first, is misguided. Yes you can be the source of inspiration and motivation. Yes you can be loving and supportive Yes you can pour in in ways that contribute to his growth. HOWEVER! all of them can be done while you are his friend! Like real friends, not like the actress God did not call you to be in a relationship with a boy who has yet to become a man. You run a lot of risks trying to be in a relationship with a man's "potential". In most cases you will find yourself a huge investment of time and energy, only to end up feeling cheated by the lack of return on your investment. While you think you're building him up, you're really making things You're providing all of these benefits. Not only is he qualified at the moment, but he is not putting him in the extra work, yet he can not ask for him. Do you really think this will push him to higher levels, or do yotu see how someone can easily become content and in this situation in the atheist? Forget him for a second, let's talk about you. While you're too busy trying to "build a man" You 're so consumed by this guy, that you have forgotten about the things you want to focus on in your life. You may be a great woman, but there is still work for you It's not your responsibility to make a boy in a man, unless that boy is your own child. You were not allowed to be someone's crutch, you could have been a man's partner and helper. This brings me to the next thing you should know. . .