A girl who was familiar with bruises, shouting and harsh words no longer made her ears ring. An elementary school girl who learned what it meant when her parents were too drowsy to speak, borrowing money meant sheβd never see it again. A teenager who knew that her family would not change, promises were never certain and lies would always be. A young adult who now continued the abuse on herself, pain was a constant and always self inflicted. Can she be blamed for how she was taught to love? Can you hold her accountable for the ways she learned to protect herself?