Having a gentle heart Is rare in this world. Being kind and accepting is an art form that takes daily practice. To be a good person is important. But as it's said...
"Beware the company you keep"
Sometimes you think you are a positive influence. Helping people to be the best version of themselves. Supporting and uplifting them because it's what comes natural.
But in the same vein, You also notice a declining faith in yourself. A muddled discernment in where you've put your confidence. A feeling that this is a siphon connection.
That's when you realize you are not keeping company anymore. You are tolerating them. And they are bleeding you dry.