I bid you! Step back and look at relationships. Love when did it become a taboo word. When did actually working for something become so so hard? Do we fall in love or has it now become a matter of social engineering based on salary and position? Or has it always been that way? Has love become an asset? Is it obtainable or disposable? Have we become the embodiment of Barbarella? Dial 9 for ***? Do we even know what love is anymore? We place so many restraints upon ourselves. Date sites read like you want to build your partner from Lego! "Must be tall" "Must be athletic" "Must be blonde and have blue eyes" Hell it reads like the 1930s Aryan manifesto! What changed? What did we lose? Granted we were never taught how to love. Just steered by examples around us and the media. We get no guide. For a relationship is a series of events. A partnership of compromise and putting others first. That is love The actuality of giving freely The fluidity in being of more than ones self. As with no guide to success, there is no guide to what works. So giving up before we start has become so so easy. Not even giving someone a chance as they are an inch below you. Not meeting her because she is a size bigger than the cover of a magazine model that is an airbrush fake in any case. Mankind has become a species of apathy. If Neil Armstrong was born now he would be sat in a bar not walking on the moon. We don't nurture anything. We lost our way. We have lists. We no longer know who weβre looking for. Maybe if we worked backwards. Ask the couple in the park on the bench in their 80s what made you love? Not how did you meet or where. What made you try? With millions of people what made you special. We now write of sitting watching DVD s on the couch and growing old together, must love cats, why? Do you want an individual or another pet? A lap dog. You can party with anyone. Friends family hell even the cat. But finding someone who knows us, who understands us even on a bad day is what we need. The excitement and thrills will come in any case with all of lifes ups and downs. But only if "You" are prepared to take a leap into the unknown.