"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud."

i  read this in the Bible
on a Sunday afternoon
and couldn't help but think
if love is patient,
if love is kind,
then why can hearts be broken?
why must love cause pain?
if love does not envy
nor boast,
then why must jealousy result from others happiness?
why must we feel obligated to put labels on love?
love is not proud?
if love can not be proud, must it be ashamed?
i thought about this for days
over and over again
read it
time after time
and came to the conclusion
love is love
it is a mystery