Jul 2015
Dear Ladies
Common Mistakes Women make when discovering an affair
When you have just discovered that your man is cheating on you...please do NOT do the following:-
1.
Demanding to know about the other woman: The truth may hurt you. Can you handle the truth?
2.
Insulting the other woman: You are giving her power, she doesnt deserve. Especially if you insult her to your husband e.g. how is your **** doing?
3.
Forcing him to choose, thinking he will choose you: There is no competition here-you will lose this one! She is new and they are in the honeymoon phase, you on the other hand are an old habit.
4.
Calling him excessively to check on him like a prisoner: He may start to avoid your calls even if he is not doing anything bad just to protect his freedom.
5.
Beating the other woman up: You are creating sympathy for her. Now she looks like your victim to him. With this one you are still giving her power.
6.
Threatening to leave just to scare him: You are giving h im ideas. You make the grass seem greener on the other side.
7.
Crying: He wont feel sympathy for you-he will feel burdened by the tears.
8.
Snooping: Dont hurt yourself unnecessarily. You will find what you are looking for. Dont break into his e-mails. Dont scroll his cellphone and dont go through his messages.
9.
Being in denial even though the signs are there: Do something about your knowledge or you will make yourself sick. Some diseases are stress-related. Deal with your issues; dont bottle them up.
10.
Telling his mother: For crying out loud! This is his mother!
11.
Committing suicide: Seriously, once youre gone, youre gone!
Put the phone down.
·
It is wise to leave his phone alone.when you are hurting, deal with your disappointment instead of going through his phone only to find more truths that will hurt you.
Common Mistakes Women make when discovering an affair
When you have just discovered that your man is cheating on you...please do NOT do the following:-
1.
Demanding to know about the other woman: The truth may hurt you. Can you handle the truth?
2.
Insulting the other woman: You are giving her power, she doesnt deserve. Especially if you insult her to your husband e.g. how is your **** doing?
3.
Forcing him to choose, thinking he will choose you: There is no competition here-you will lose this one! She is new and they are in the honeymoon phase, you on the other hand are an old habit.
4.
Calling him excessively to check on him like a prisoner: He may start to avoid your calls even if he is not doing anything bad just to protect his freedom.
5.
Beating the other woman up: You are creating sympathy for her. Now she looks like your victim to him. With this one you are still giving her power.
6.
Threatening to leave just to scare him: You are giving h im ideas. You make the grass seem greener on the other side.
7.
Crying: He wont feel sympathy for you-he will feel burdened by the tears.
8.
Snooping: Dont hurt yourself unnecessarily. You will find what you are looking for. Dont break into his e-mails. Dont scroll his cellphone and dont go through his messages.
9.
Being in denial even though the signs are there: Do something about your knowledge or you will make yourself sick. Some diseases are stress-related. Deal with your issues; dont bottle them up.
10.
Telling his mother: For crying out loud! This is his mother!
11.
Committing suicide: Seriously, once youre gone, youre gone!
Put the phone down.
·
It is wise to leave his phone alone.when you are hurting, deal with your disappointment instead of going through his phone only to find more truths that will hurt you.
