Don't ever look at children as props of joy. Never forget their feelings. Don't be blind. You can see it in their eyes. Your own child is your first treasure. They taught you so much prior to losing the love to whom you signed the contract. Removal of the ring on your finger does not erase the memory of your baby clutching your index. Finding new love and holding another child is not going to make you any older. Children are smart. They become bewildered and perplexed by parents behaving like hypocrites. Then they know to not raise their voices. Small but brave they are. You will laugh at their bad behavior in the future, but you won't be laughing as they have cuts on their wrists after seeing you with your other set of kids. It't too late. Divorce can lead to disaster. We're allowed to love again, we're not allowed to leave the ones in our family who come first. Remember the baby that was legitimately your own who you held in your arms for the first time. They matter more.