it doesn’t matter if the relationship lasted for a few days or went on for years, whether you got dumped or you’re the one who broke up, the thing is when you lose someone you were attached to at some level, it’s going to hurt, bad. Studies have shown that an emotional pain, specifically a heart-break, stimulates similar parts of your brain as physical pain. So, what do you do when you get physically hurt? Ignore it, suppress it or avoid looking at it? The fact of the matter is, it’s there and no matter how much you try to ignore it, it won’t stop hurting. Just like a visible wound takes time and effort to heal, so does emotional pain. You need to pick yourself up, help yourself recover from it, be amenable. Here is some advice which will help speed up the process.
1. Take your time and mourn
There is no such thing as ‘just get over it’, as much as we would all like it to exist, it doesn’t. You can’t just ask yourself to stop feeling something and your brain would oblige and the switch would go off. However, you can try and put a lid on it, but you will eventually break down and it will be harder regaining your strength from that. So don’t blame yourself for feeling sad, angry, hurt; whatever it is that you’re feeling, you are a human being not a robot, cry your heart out if you want to, just feel it! We all have different coping mechanisms, we recover at our own pace, so don’t compare your progress to someone else’s, don’t think you’re a weak person just because you’re taking longer than what you think is the ideal time to grieve, take as much time as you need, as long as you’re improving.
as hard as it might be,
you need to accept that it’s over and there is no going back. If you are the one who broke up, don’t try to rethink your decision, this happens when you start thinking about all the good times you had with your partner making all the reasons you broke up seem insignificant; or if you got dumped, don’t try scheming all the ways to get them back, you’ll lose your self-respect, try getting yourself back instead. Think of all the reasons you two didn’t work out, don’t obsess over it, make peace with it and make efforts to move in the forward direction instead of going backwards.
Let yourself be angry
Anger is the second most dominant feeling after a break up, the first is sadness of course. You might be angry at yourself for giving them so many chances, wasting your time, making mistakes etc or angry at them for hurting you, taking you for granted etc. Whatever the reason is, anger is an inevitable emotion after a split. What you need to do is, channel this anger in the right direction. Go running, get a punching bag or just scream and let it out. Getting over anger is very important, don’t be too aggressive and harm yourself or someone around you, give it a safe passage, just release it.
Vent out to someone close
Surround yourself with positive people, people who make you happy, who add value to your life. Happiness can be contagious. Also, talking about your feelings is important, so speak your heart out to someone you can trust, who is compassionate, who will understand your state and tell them everything you feel. Let them help you, don’t shut them out. People who mean well for you, will make every effort to make you feel better, don’t turn them down. Talk to them, spend time with them. Once you can talk about it without crying a river, know that you’re almost there.

We all want to be happy and in love one day, at least that's the goal. We all want to eventually find that life partner that makes our life a lot easier to live. And just because you haven't come across that person yet, It does not mean that person does not exist. Sometimes God will hide you both from each other because you both are truly not ready to love. You are not unlovable. You are not unwanted. You are a diamond. But your problem is, You want God to put you out for display when he hasn't finished polishing you yet. Your life partner deserves you at your absolute best and vice versa. And the only way you'll make your next relationship your last relationship, Is by not rushing something that you want to last forever.

Most of the time, relationships don’t work out because you realise they’re not serving you right. But this realisation strikes you during the relationship, which ultimately leads to heartbreak. To avoid something of the sort, think about what you want from a partner and a relationship, when you’re still single. This way you’d end up with what you’ve always wanted.

Learn from other’s experiences

You may be single, but the people around you, friends and family may be in healthy, long-term relationships. Find out how they’ve made it so far and what their secrets to a healthy relationship are. You can learn best from your own mistakes, but observation helps too. You can notice the things that can make relationships last and how healthy couples work.

Be aware of your mistakes

Your past relationship ended for a reason, and you must be equally responsible for it. You can’t place all the blame on the other person. Even if they were on the wrong, you must’ve made some wrong choices too. Only when you realise your mistakes and own up to them you will be able to keep yourself from repeating them in the future and ruining a potential relationship.



Appreciate the good in you

Making mistakes or wrong decisions does not make you a horrible person, it just makes you human. You can’t go back in time and change anything. Let the past be. If you regret having done or said something, apologise and make it a point to never do it again. You have your vices, but you have your virtues as well. Don’t beat yourself up over something that’s now history. You’re not all that bad. If you don’t realise your strengths, no one else will!

There is something very exciting about a man being able to mentally stimulate a woman. The kind of man that doesn't live behind his phone but actually picks it up to call the woman he is interested in so he can hold a beautiful conversation with her. Anyone can talk a good game through text messages because text messages are safe. It allows you time to think and respond perfectly instead of naturally responding from impulse. But when it comes to being on the phone with a woman, when you can listen and respond to her and establish a certain flow with her, it helps build a greater rapport. Her being able to hear your voice, allows her to be able to put a voice to the man she can grow more interested in. You can speak into her spirit and leave her with little jewels that will have her looking forward to the next phone conversation. She starts to think about your voice all day, and begins to wonder what you two will talk about next. I guess what I'm trying to say is, the good ones still enjoy a good phone conversation. And it's better for her to anticipate hearing your voice than for her to anticipate reading your text.

you might think that he wouldn’t be the best person to give marriage advice considering his 16-year long marriage came to an end. But very often, your worst mistakes become your best teachers. Since people are always in need of advice to better their marriage, let’s look at the wisdom this guy has to share;
1.Never stop dating
Now that you’ve been married doesn’t mean you’re allowed to take her for granted. Make her feel wanted. Keep doing what you did to win her over. If you love her, never fail to show it.
2.Love yourself first
Loving yourself will teach you how exactly you should love your better half. And only when you love yourself enough, can you focus on other things and people. However, she deserves a special place in your heart, which is exclusively for her, and you shouldn’t allow anyone to take her place.
3.Keep falling in love over and over again, with each other
Life changes constantly and people have to mould themselves accordingly. Change being the only constant, is a little difficult to deal with when it comes to people. You’re going to be a very different person from who you are now in a couple of years. Make her fall in love with the new you, if you want to keep her around.

4.Focus on the good
She isn’t going to be perfect, but neither are you. Don’t make it feel like you two are settling for each other. Rather concentrate on the good so much, that it outweighs all that you find bothersome. You only find what you go looking for. So if you’re nit picking for flaws, that’s all you’d ever be able to see. So choose wisely. There’s always a little good in everyone, and you fell in love with her for a reason; never forget that reason
5.Don’t try to change her
Loving someone requires you to embrace them for who they are, which means loving them for their imperfections as well. Wouldn’t you want the same? So would she. Accept her the way she is, and never be critical. And if you see any changes, support them as well.
6.You alone are responsible for your happiness
You choose how you feel. No one, not even your wife can control your feelings or emotions. And it’s definitely not her responsibility to make you happy. Find joy in the small things, and the happier you are yourself, the better you can do your part in the marriage.
7.You are also responsible for other emotions as well
If you’re ticked off by something that your wife says or does, then again, it’s not her fault. Find out what surfaced those feelings and the unresolved issues behind them. Don’t take it out on her at any cost.

8.Be there for her
Even more so when her life is messy. Being there for her does not mean that she needs you to fix everything. She’s as capable of dealing with a situation as you are. Trust her to figure it out, but be the support that she needs. Keep her from giving up and giving her the push she needs. Be attentive and patient.
9.Laugh
Life is only what we make of it. So take it easy. Find the humor in all the little things. Laugh with and at each other. It eases even the worst of situations. And if you can make her laugh, she isn’t going to lose interest in you all that easily.
10.Learn her language of love
As her life partner you should understand her language of love, without any excuses. Try to understand what you could do to make her feel loved. You might think that telling her you love her every day would do the job, but it might not be so fulfilling for her. Find out what works for her instead and give her that.

11.Be attentive
When you’re with her, shut out the rest of the world. She deserves your undivided attention. It shows how much you respect her and actually value everything that she has to share with you.
12. There’s only so much room for mistakes
You both are going to make mistakes. No need to panic. Don’t repeat those mistakes and try learning from each one of them. Also bear in mind that avoidable mistakes are a deal breaker. Don’t test her patience too often.

A real man is not a person who can
impregnate a woman; any guy can also
impregnate a woman. Even a 17 year old boy
can impregnate a woman but that does not
make him a man.
A real man is not a person who is good in
bed. Any idiot can be good in bed.
A real man is not a person who beats his
wife/girlfriend. Infact it is only idiots that
beat their women.
A real man is a person who tolerates his
woman
A real man is a person who controls his
anger
A real man is the person who shows real
care and love to his woman
A real man is the person who knows how
to solve the crises and problems in his
relationship
A real man does not beat his woman
A real man is hardworking. He is not lazy
A real man can endure, persevere and be
patient
A real man can overlook the bad
behaviors of his woman
A real man corrects his woman with love.
Real men make their women happy.
Therefore, ladies, when choosing a man, date
real men only.
Marry real men only. If you are not happy in
your relationship now, that means your guy
is not a real man.!
Look beyond *** and money and go for
happiness and peace of mind.
—Do You Agree???

The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman's heart.
What we need to know about loving is no great mystery. We all know what constitutes loving behavior; we need but act upon it, not continually question it. Over-analysis often confuses the issue and in the end brings us no closer to insight. We sometimes become too busy classifying, separating, and examining, to remember that love is easy. It's we who make it complicated.
Romantic love reaches out in little ways, showing attention and admiration. Romantic love remembers what pleases a woman, what excites her, and what surprises her. Its actions whisper: you are the most special person in my life.
From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven. And when two souls that are destined to be together find each other, their streams of light flow together, and a single brighter light goes forth from their united being.
It is the things in common
that make relationships enjoyable,
but it is the little differences
that make them interesting.
Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself.
My heart to you is given:
Oh, do give yours to me;
We'll lock them up together,
And throw away the key.
The heart is the place where we live our passions. It is frail and easily broken, but wonderfully resilient. There is no point in trying to deceive the heart. It depends upon our honesty for its survival.
Born For Love
There is only one happiness in life: to love and be loved.
Love is an act of endless forgiveness
A tender look which becomes a habit.