Dear Eldest Child,

I know you’re hurting right now.

It feels like your emotions are often dismissed like the love you receive comes with conditions, even from those who were supposed to love you unconditionally.

But it’s alright. You know why? Because now, you get to choose you.

You get to learn how to love yourself without limits. You get to discover who truly deserves a place in your life—who values you for who you are, not just for what you do.

I promise you: one day, someone will come along who loves you the way you were always meant to be loved. Someone who makes you feel seen, safe, and special, in ways your family never could, and maybe never even tried to.

So take a deep breath. Relax your shoulders. Lift your chin.

You’re allowed to put yourself first now.

Let’s give ourselves the love we never had. Because only we can give ourselves the kind of love that truly heals.

With all my heart,
The Eldest Child