There is a lesson in grief, because alot of the times theres no chance for reconciliation in person. It's just not possible sometimes but I digress so I've found that there are some helpful steps here they are:
First we start with apologizing.
I'm sorry, for all the pain I caused you. I'm sorry I couldn't compromise.
Then we ask for their forgiveness.
Please forgive me, not for my sake but for yours, you deserve to be at peace and it's something I hope you find when you hear or read these words, if they make it to you.
2nd to last tell them you love them.
I love you, I hope you knew that.
Then lastly, because everyone has something to teach you no matter what you think we say thank you.
Thank you for everything you gave me, your words of kindness your understanding and unrelenting love, that took more forms then I can name.
It's okay to feel the emotions to their fullest, when you're alone, if you can't let people see you break down.