How are you supposed to deal with overthinking and boundaries?
To ask her to not do something for my own benefit or security feels like I’m a bad boyfriend. I don’t wanna be that guy. There’s so much at risk if it goes wrong.
I’m uncomfortable with lots of things you do or wanna do. Lots of things I’ve never told you before. What kind of guy would I be to stop you from doing these things? But it would make me feel so much better about myself and us. Is this normal?
It makes me feel weak. That I’m even worried about this in the first place. You don’t put boundaries on me. So why should I do it for you. Are we both in the same boat? Afraid of being the one to put limits down?
I admit it’s become my greatest worry. The thought of stopping you from being the person you want to be would be my greatest failure. I don’t want my overthinking to be the end of us. I hate it when I keep asking if we are ok. One day I feel you’ll become sick of me being repetitive. But I can’t escape this cycle of this feeling.
You are my world. It would be stupid to start putting borders down because of my stupid past.
Mar 19
Mar 19, 2026 at 1:58 PM UTC
How are you supposed to deal with overthinking and boundaries?
To ask her to not do something for my own benefit or security feels like I’m a bad boyfriend. I don’t wanna be that guy. There’s so much at risk if it goes wrong.
I’m uncomfortable with lots of things you do or wanna do. Lots of things I’ve never told you before. What kind of guy would I be to stop you from doing these things? But it would make me feel so much better about myself and us. Is this normal?
It makes me feel weak. That I’m even worried about this in the first place. You don’t put boundaries on me. So why should I do it for you. Are we both in the same boat? Afraid of being the one to put limits down?
I admit it’s become my greatest worry. The thought of stopping you from being the person you want to be would be my greatest failure. I don’t want my overthinking to be the end of us. I hate it when I keep asking if we are ok. One day I feel you’ll become sick of me being repetitive. But I can’t escape this cycle of this feeling.
You are my world. It would be stupid to start putting borders down because of my stupid past.
I’m worried about losing you over my insecurities.