Surviving both of my mothers
changed the way I learned to love.
To be loved, I folded myself small.
I learned silence like a second language.
I smiled when I was breaking.
I swallowed tears until they burned.
I was yelled at for feeling,
so I learned how not to feel at all.
Love, to me, meant shrinking.
Love meant surviving.
But this is a new era of my life.
I am unlearning survival
and relearning love.
There are friends who chose me
through every version of myself.
Friends who include me.
Friends who want me.
There are sisters who lift me
without asking why I’m heavy.
Sisters who listen to the same story
again and again
and never ask me to be smaller.
So maybe I never received
the motherly love I craved.
But because of that,
I will become it.
My children will never question my love.
They will never fear my voice.
They will never rehearse their words
before speaking to me.
I will replace guilt with grace.
I will replace fear with safety.
I will replace silence with warmth.
I will break the cycle.
And all the times I was broken
will become the reason
they never have to be.
Feb 7
Feb 7, 2026 at 3:47 PM UTC
Surviving both of my mothers
changed the way I learned to love.
To be loved, I folded myself small.
I learned silence like a second language.
I smiled when I was breaking.
I swallowed tears until they burned.
I was yelled at for feeling,
so I learned how not to feel at all.
Love, to me, meant shrinking.
Love meant surviving.
But this is a new era of my life.
I am unlearning survival
and relearning love.
There are friends who chose me
through every version of myself.
Friends who include me.
Friends who want me.
There are sisters who lift me
without asking why I’m heavy.
Sisters who listen to the same story
again and again
and never ask me to be smaller.
So maybe I never received
the motherly love I craved.
But because of that,
I will become it.
My children will never question my love.
They will never fear my voice.
They will never rehearse their words
before speaking to me.
I will replace guilt with grace.
I will replace fear with safety.
I will replace silence with warmth.
I will break the cycle.
And all the times I was broken
will become the reason
they never have to be.