My childhood was measured By smushed handfuls of red raspberries That stained my clothes methodically. By counting sports cars instead of shooting stars After all, we have enough in the suburbs to last us a while. By "don't touch this" that comes with the affluence Of one of the most prosperous counties in the country. By butterfly T-shirts that were stitched together with secrets By people picking and prodding at my size By "if only I was skinny" vibrating my eardrums As I had heard it from so many people before I hit the age of 12. By being different As at thirteen, I had no interest in make-up or push up bras or jocks But punk rock music and a boy who was a little bit more dangerous than I anticipated. By unwanted touches from uninvited men Who took it upon themselves to show me womanhood Before I could identify it myself By the way my father stopped looking at me As though I was his little girl Because he began to find out where my skin has wandered. By how my father had stopped looking at me quite some time ago Because I was never his skinny spitting image of perfection By the way he criticized my clothing Told me if I wanted people to make fun of me for my size If I wanted people to call me a **** Then I could wear whatever the hell I wanted. When I replied that I, in fact, did not give a flying **** My mother chimed in "Well you should." And by the way complete strangers have told me to go on a diet While others have screamed from passing cars "****, baby, look at that body" As though my body is my worth And as though my worth is something to be measure I have been taught that my worth is something tangible That can be compacted into a little box with a pretty pink bow Stuck on a scale and weighed And that the number I see on that scale The number of pounds that my body physically contains Directly correlates with my worth as a person. Do those strangers that hound me about my weight even stop to think That I spend hours in front of the mirror Pinching my skin into too-tight jeans ******* in my stomach because I just want to look my thinnest? Do they even wonder about my past How I have tried to diet and that is the only time I can remember my father Treating me like a decent human being? Oh, but I didn't lose much weight In fact, the only time I really lost anything significant Was when I was bulimic. But they don't question that either. And to the strangers who catcall me That "body" has been abused by men I have trusted That "body" has lost all control on a bed when a man took it from her That "body" is strong, healthy and beautiful It is not just a door mat for you to wipe your paws on It is not just a *** toy whose sole purpose is to satisfy you And then be thrown away Is this what it means to be a woman? To have your personhood and purpose in this world Be quantified and made so it can be held in the same small palms That smushed raspberries at six years old? I hope that my worth can someday be more Than a measurement.