If you do not feel love then start loving on other people.
If you are feeling insecure, then start trusting others.
Love is a verb, an action not a noun worldly love is a noun.
But Christ love is a verb, this is what true love is about.
So start trusting especially when things perceive to be the opposite.
Christ is trying to teach you how to love unconditionally in a lost world.
Thus this is where the true testing grounds are in with the unloving.