its reckoning isn't it that we assume so much about others only in order to realize that it is our pain our mirror reflecting and looking back at us different cultures show me how much my american culture has been so toxic and indocrinated me in many ways that are unhealthy I have pushed so many people away all because they loved me saw me and honored me and I couldn't see it . because I was so hellbent on hurting myself. wow life is truly shocking isn't it maybe learning to have fewer words is the way .