There is a certain amount of pressure in the fact that we live somewhere we can basically determine our own fate. The idea that one can simply change their life by filing for divorce, changing religion, applying for a new job makes it that you have no reason to whine, or ***** about your current situation. This is terrifying. The entirety of your life is placed on your shoulders and your shoulders only. In another country things might be laid out for you. Who you marry, what your job is, how your expected to act. I don't wish for this type of life, and i recognize that there is a different kind of pressure, but the type i am most afraid of is right in my own backyard. The expectation that you are in charge of you and if success isn't in your future its because you made it that way.