you know the five stages of grief right? i think that i went through them when i was questioning my identity
denial. i couldn’t possibly be anything but a girl right? wrong. gender is a spectrum gender can be fluid gender can be whatever you want it to be and that is because non-binary people do not owe you androgyny but that couldn’t possibly be me how could i not be a girl? i wear dresses. i like makeup. i can’t be anything else
anger. how could god make me this way??? why am i questioning this vital part of myself? this can’t be true. this isn’t who i am supposed to be. and if it was, why am i just now thinking about it? i can’t deal with another change. my mom won’t like this. i can’t not be a girl. this doesn’t make sense.
bargaining. please. i can handle anything else. just not this. i hate coming out to people. what if my friends don’t understand? let alone my parents. after all these years. this can’t be happening. please god why.
depression. i can’t live like this. i don’t want to keep this a secret. and yet, i cry at night, thinking about what mom would say. what everyone would say. how could i do this to everyone. let alone myself. what is so wrong with being a girl…what if this is a lie what if i am merely tricking myself into this, to give myself another special thing
acceptance. this is who i am. i am non-binary and i am loved. by myself. by my friends. by my dad. the people who know are the people who really care. this is who i am, and i am perfect just the way i am, no matter what anyone says.