like the kangaroo who hopped over the river but didn't quite make it... got stuck in the mud on both sides.. I mean, it jumped, and did cross, but didn't do it well, and died there.... but the bones - the structure - allowed others to cross

Good mentorship looks for what the bones are, not the muscles that tore, or the skin the cut and bled... nor the bruises in the meat..
"I wish to take the lesson, but I can leave the story."