When you grow up in a **** show
people on the outside will say a number of these phases to you
* look at you being so strong
*this will just make you stronger
* I cant believe how strong you are
and while all these words come from a good place
no one ever truly knows what is like to be *STRONG unless they have lived in these same situations

What really needs to be said
I know you're strong and I can't imagine what this is like and I see you
* You don't always have to be strong, but you are doing a great job
I know/ don't know your pain and/but I'm here*

Sometimes being the strong one isn't what you want to be known for