abandonment, wired for panic how can I explain if but if you ever wonder why women chase men they don't like or keep them around when they are hurting them I explain that it's the panic of abandonment because to feel nothing nothing, is worse than pain any pain of the relationship because abandonment is more life threatening to a child, who is not a child but now an adult with a child inside and the child panics and the woman chases the man who hurts her like an addict chases down a drug