Going through something like that is never pleasant for either party...

I hope you can heal your hearts in No Time!
Feel the hurt.. To feel alive..
Process the Anger... Not to walk around with hatred in your heart!
Acknowledge the emotional rollercoaster- and identify each emotion as you go along this will help with your personal growth and gain emotional maturity...
Don't blind yourself to your own mistakes - you can only learn from it and start your personal growth thereafter..

FORGIVE!!!
FORGIVE your spouse for whatever wrongs had been done...
&
FORGIVE YOURSELF ~ that might be the most difficult journey of them All ~ But The Most Important one to heal the Heart!

Take it day by day....
Acceptance takes a while...
However, if you still have just the most tiniest bit of Love left in your heart...

Always give Love another try...