I've got a sticky note taped onto the back of my computer from ages ago when someone put the ideas I'd been trying to express for months into words. It's titled in all caps--
WHAT JIM SAID
Like obviously with the power of perspective you can achieve happiness in any situation, but I would much rather achieve a state of happiness that just flows, rather than forcing myself to be positive. and like you, i think thats much easier to obtain in the right environment with the right people.

I've never met a Jim. But I still concur with him.