word of advice my dear?
please don’t ever let any man
tell you what you can & cannot do.
yes it may hurt at first,
yes you may shed a tear.
why listen to me?
well with these kind of things
i must admit i know a thing or two.
you are strong.
you are independent.
but how is it he always finds
something to call you out on,
as if you are the one in the wrong?
you are an individual.
you are you own alpha,
and a much better one
than he could ever be.
know your worth.
have faith.
trust God’s path for you
and you will soon see.
do not mope.
do not frown.
it’s slipping! it’s slipping!
don’t you hear me my dear,
stay mindful of that up on your
head-
for it is your crown.
you’ve been here before
this aching dull pain in your
heart is nothing new.
although i know it’s quite
an unfortunate feeling
to get used to.
find the inner strength
to pull out useless memories
as if they are damaged weeds.
suga can’t you realize
that it is you every man needs.
wash your body of his touch.
clear your mind of his voice.
a fresh start is what you need,
i don’t think that’s
asking for too much.
they play you like a doll.
they take you as a fool.
celebrate with their boys every time they score a touchdown,
it isn’t easy
letting someone into your garden
free of charge.
for odd reasons they find the
“hit it and quit it” method
to be cool.
now now do not be too hard
on yourself
my sweet, sweet girl.
like any good person
you gave him the benefit
of the doubt.
you didn’t expect him to leave you wounded,
manipulated,
and lied to.
i would think no one ever assumed so suddenly
he would be up and out.
even your momma loved him.
oh boy, what to say to momma.
will she be disappointed?
will it break her heart?
or will she simply reply
“i knew he was no good
for you child, yes indeed
i knew it from the very start.”
it’s his loss
and yes that saying
is rather cliche.
but you are going to be
an extraordinary wife
and a remarkable mother one day.
do not sulk.
do not cry.
do not sit in bed at 3 in the mornin’
asking the good lord
“why?”
you must take each day
at a time queen.
no, do not shout
“****** ain’t ****”
for there is no logical reason
to be mean.
take as much time as you need
for yourself.
do not change your heart
or the beautiful person you are.
what happened to you can be
deeply hidden.
you smile on the outside
what remains on that
fragile little heart
is a scar.
keep being that positive,
outgoing,
goofy but flawed woman.
stay focused,
keep your priorities aligned.
the one who puts others before herself, the one who is thankful for the life God has blessed her with,
the one who is sensible,
understanding and kind.
now i hope you’ve gained
something from these words,
at least one or two.
and before you go
have i mentioned my dear,
never let a man tell you
what you can & cannot do.

- d.berry