when I was a little boy I was joyful and evident. I am still joyful and evident however, the evidence of my pronounced outspoken ways. Has been a stumbling block of   missed opportunities. The passing over or the raised eyebrow or dead fish stare.

Just say it . brush it up a bit and say it. Thats me talking to me now when the moment of truth arrives.  And the fit hits shan almost every time. The definition of diplomacy has been redone. It is dishonest.