The hardest part about living through trauma is when someone wants to claim you and use your suffering as a badge of honor in that they helped you get to a better place and time in your life but all you can hear is how they introduce you to others and leave all of your trauma attached to your identity instead of in the past where it would die and you know, maybe this has a negative effect sometimes like, say, for example, a third grade boy introducing himself to his teacher and immediately explaining the sad tale of abuse and people gone astray because up to that point all he had known was how to be injured, how to be a trophy for mother dearest after all, there can be no heroes without victims and some heroes find it better to just keep a victim around to be brought out and dance to the same sad song of the evil that men do.