Once you change, you grow. Once you grow, you live. Once you change and grow for the better... you begin to live to love yourself. It wasn't easy if the change is genuine and consistent. If you haven't gotten there yet, think of yourself like a cacoon, who grows into a caterpillar then grows into a colorful butterfly. You have to be dull in order to learn to be interesting. You have to be in the crowd for too long to step outside and fly alone... this is where leaders are born or "self made". Don't stay in the crowd too long.