I was torn apart so slowly, I barely noticed.
but I was in pieces long before I met him.
I was a lonely, empty shell of a girl when I met him,
already chewed up and spit out by one boy
and by countless others long before either.
when I met him, I was desperate for something
and it blinded me. I met him and I was blind, and so I loved him.
I loved him with everything I had in me,
I loved every ounce of his potential, both real and imagined.
I loved his give no ***** attitude, I loved the way he spoke,
I loved the way he was absolutely
unlike any person I’d ever met.
and this was my tragic flaw:
often enough, “unlike anyone I’d ever met”
seemed more or less to mean
“someone who’s going to rip you to pieces.”
but god, did I love that boy. I
loved him when distance stretched out between us,
I loved him when my phone never lit up and
my message count was at a constant zero.
I loved him when he’d disappear for days and
I loved him even when it felt like loving him was wrenching out my own guts.
something in me was severed,
and I couldn’t find it in myself to understand
that this is not how love is supposed to be.
love isn’t meant to make you lonelier, more miserable, more empty.
love isn't meant to hollow you out, to empty
every part of you that ever mattered.
that escaped me each time he lied,
each time he cheated,
each time his woman of choice reached out to me
to tell me what **** my boyfriend was.
I wish I would have listened.
I wish he wasn’t so brilliant an architect,
because he sure built himself a throne of lies.
locked me so deep into that castle I couldn’t see beyond his walls.
I couldn’t escape, didn’t know how, didn’t know I wanted to.
didn’t know how badly I needed to.
through everything, he was a pillar. he was bravery and
strength and resilience – to me, anyway.
but mostly he was just a clever liar, and I was an easy believer.
he was my religion, and I didn’t question his teachings.
he believed his own fables, though.  
as he crafted, so his lies became his own truth.
We were both blind, foolish idiots.
everyone but me watched me crumble beneath his weight,
and it took too many years for the glass to crack from my own inside,
but I saw it. I saw the mangled mess I’d become
under his kingdom. I saw my bleeding lips and my cracked fingers and
my dead eyes. I saw the monster in him,
the monster that didn’t know any better.
he wasn’t a monster on purpose, he wasn’t evil.
he was just as broken and hopeless as I was – but
my pity, my sympathy, my love couldn’t carry him anymore.
a monster who ignores his own reflection will never change.

and so I left.
I gathered up the remaining shards of my being
and I walked out his front door,
and even as he swore and scream and fought and cried,
I slipped like the ocean through
his desperate,
pleading fingers.