I like to think back fondly on things in my life, and then reminisce when things were difficult. You're not just the boat tossed at sea or the shore, you can be both. We create dichotomy because it's easy, but not everything is right or wrong, black and white. Itβs full of weird stipulation, washed out, and grey. Life is simpler when we can say,"these people are like this and others are this way."