Pretend that you’re crying.
2. Actually cry.
3. Cry until the marks of your tears dig streams across your cheeks.
4. Learn that crying isn’t for people to see. Talk to yourself. In front of the mirror. To the ceiling. Talk about the unsaid. Say it.
5. Learn that your eyes hold feelings that need releasing before they explode into thousands of pieces of shredded memories.
6. See the proof of your feelings on your wet pillows.
7. Cry some more.
8. Know that your tears are not weakness but gift of love.
9. Learn that you are actually okay except for some hurt strings of your brain. Yes, brain. Not your heart. It just pumps blood, and pretends it feels.
10. Don’t be okay too soon. You’ll get there.

h.s.