where's my Sweetheart? can I see him? oh, no, honey, your Sweetheart's gone a long time now, 10, 15, 20 years. you can't see him ever again, so you've got to forget him and move on. don't think of him or cry, just move on like he'd want you to if he could tell you. it wasn't your fault that he couldn't go with you when you left. you had to leave. and he found another and forgot you anyway, so do the same and just go on. you can always find another cat.