Feb 2015
Did you ever fall in love? Head over heels?
How do you trust your feelings when they can just disappear?
You may think you're in love when he gives you those butterflies in the pit of your stomach. You'll think you're in love when he gets jealous when you speak or laugh with other guys. You'll assume he'll fight for you when things get tough. When he buy you flowers you'll feel like the world had stopped revolving when in fact, it didnt, they're just illusions.
You're not in love. You just think you are. If I ask you what does love mean, your answer will be "he gives me butterflies" "he thinks i'm the most perfect person he's ever met" "that heart-pounding adrenaline rush when I see him". You'll say "he cares for me like no one ever did". Is that it? That's when you say "i'm in love"?
Is he loyal? Does he respect you? Does he treat you well? He knows how to make you happy? Like real happy. Does he support you? In whatever thing you're willing to do. Is he a keeper? Do you know his past? Are you a part of his life? Like a part of his future? Does he see behind your vulnerability? Does he see your flaws and still love you? Does he want to serve you selflessly? Does he still spends time with other people? Does he take time to build the relationship? Does he work on this relationship as much as you do? His other relationships and friendships grow stronger? Does he trust and understand you enough to result in less severe and less frequent jealousy? Does he fight less seriously and less often? Does he quarrel and make up in the end? Does the quarrels strengthen your relationship?
There's a difference between "I love him" and "I am in love with him". A difference between "infatuation" and "love". You'll think you're in love when in fact you're just infatuated.
Infatuation? It's when you see him as perfect. When he wants to get his own needs met; selfish. When he spends all time with you. When you quickly “fall” for each other . When his other relationships and friendships deteriorate. When dependence on him causes jealousy, frequently. When quarrels are serious and common between both of you. When a quarrel can seriously cause harm to the relationship. This is when you're infatuated. You're tricked; you think you're in love when you're just hallucinating.
In fact, love is not a feeling. It's a choice. It's a commitment.
How do you trust your feelings when they can just disappear?
You may think you're in love when he gives you those butterflies in the pit of your stomach. You'll think you're in love when he gets jealous when you speak or laugh with other guys. You'll assume he'll fight for you when things get tough. When he buy you flowers you'll feel like the world had stopped revolving when in fact, it didnt, they're just illusions.
You're not in love. You just think you are. If I ask you what does love mean, your answer will be "he gives me butterflies" "he thinks i'm the most perfect person he's ever met" "that heart-pounding adrenaline rush when I see him". You'll say "he cares for me like no one ever did". Is that it? That's when you say "i'm in love"?
Is he loyal? Does he respect you? Does he treat you well? He knows how to make you happy? Like real happy. Does he support you? In whatever thing you're willing to do. Is he a keeper? Do you know his past? Are you a part of his life? Like a part of his future? Does he see behind your vulnerability? Does he see your flaws and still love you? Does he want to serve you selflessly? Does he still spends time with other people? Does he take time to build the relationship? Does he work on this relationship as much as you do? His other relationships and friendships grow stronger? Does he trust and understand you enough to result in less severe and less frequent jealousy? Does he fight less seriously and less often? Does he quarrel and make up in the end? Does the quarrels strengthen your relationship?
There's a difference between "I love him" and "I am in love with him". A difference between "infatuation" and "love". You'll think you're in love when in fact you're just infatuated.
Infatuation? It's when you see him as perfect. When he wants to get his own needs met; selfish. When he spends all time with you. When you quickly “fall” for each other . When his other relationships and friendships deteriorate. When dependence on him causes jealousy, frequently. When quarrels are serious and common between both of you. When a quarrel can seriously cause harm to the relationship. This is when you're infatuated. You're tricked; you think you're in love when you're just hallucinating.
In fact, love is not a feeling. It's a choice. It's a commitment.
