I never felt pain when I was making my scars
It was soothing - like brushing my teeth or combing my hair
Perhaps it was relief, calming chemicals
Churning in my brain and body
Perhaps it was my life’s work, my purpose
And the only way I knew how to survive
It was mine, nobody could take it away from me
Sometimes I miss that feeling
Miss the ritual and doing something soothing
But I have paid a heavy price -
There is no going back on how I look
But I accept my face, my body, the extent of it all
It almost killed me but in many ways it also kept me alive
It surprises me that after forty years I stopped
There have been different self destructions -
None that measured up
But I think I heard my body saying enough is enough
And so I run my fingers gently over my patchwork skin
Feel the ridges and look at the damage
And I say to myself - I survived.