#emails
The inbox calls,
It never sleeps,
It stacks up high,
It always keeps;
One more reply,
One more “urgent”,
My calm is gone,
My thoughts are burdened;
I type “Kind regards”,
Like it’s a spell,
A polite mask,
To hide the hell;
I press send,
And feel no win,
Because the next one,
Already walked in.
Feb 23
Feb 23, 2026 at 9:34 AM UTC
I received a re-invitation email this morning. A ‘come on, why don’t you want to?’ note that struck me as odd. See, I’ve been ‘tapped’ for a couple of final clubs at Yale. It can happen if you earn top grades and interact easily with male friends by day (the crew club scene is ol’ school patriarchal).
Three of my roommates have been tapped - for one thing or another. The upper-crust, traditional networks and secret societies are a huge part of why young men and women choose Ivy League schools.
I’m not talking about frats - I enjoy flippant misogyny as much as the next breasted-American and really, does “Yo bruh,” sloppy binge drinking, and ****** assault ever really get old? Yeah, it kind-of does.
And I’m not talking about the more open and popular ‘eating clubs’ - no - I’m on-about the elite social orders that enjoy a subversive and exclusive appeal.
Some students desperately want to be ‘IN’ and believe those memberships prove they’ve somehow ‘made it’. Let’s face it, someday - if you can’t actually earn it - that skull & bones handshake might open some doors.
I’ve attended a few meetings, meals, and parties in “tombs” (in upstairs libraries and houses) around New Haven, but I guess I’m just not a ‘joiner.’ Groucho Marx once said that he wouldn’t want to be a member of any club that would have someone like him as a member, maybe that’s it for me too.
Anyway, this harangue is sponsored by the glower that that silly email put on my face.
“What’s the matter?” Leeza asked, seeing my expression.
It reminded me of watching people suck-up and ‘social mountain climb’ to get into my grandmère’s (boring) circle. If your club is so exclusive (email sender), why on God’s confused earth would you want me?
Hey, I like parties, dances and hanging out with eskimos - but I'm a pre-med student and the time/value equation just doesn't stack up for me - I’ve got the M-CAT tests next summer and prepping for those has taken over my life.
It’s ironic though, how by day students at Yale go-on about ‘elitism’ - in stylized outrage - and then by night they strain to join these crew clubs.
slang...
final clubs = elite clubs and secret societies
eskimos - really cool people
crew = elite (crewing is seen as a sport for the elite)
Dec 29, 2023
Dec 29, 2023 at 8:58 AM UTC
to those who not born an aristocrat,
what it means to be a human-being?
a terrible exhaustion - result of attrition
soulless slave - six days a week
is there any other alternative, though
I cannot outstare the bill faces
rent will due soon
endless presentations
pointless meetings
118,000 unread emails
week long business trips
"bare minimum to get by" prohibited
I have lunch delivered
snacks delivered
dinner delivered
I have all the food inside my office
and a beautiful apartment facing the sea
with the sun rays peeking in through the blinds each morning
but I'm just too busy
hopelessly hoarding pennies
hopefully saving enough joy for the future
they say your hardwork will come into frution
repeating cycles of entire career till retirement?
Jul 5, 2020
Jul 5, 2020 at 3:41 AM UTC
You send me gifts,
You send me cards,
You sign it with a kiss,
But this is not love.
You send me emails,
Tell me to write back,
I do yet dad never replies,
This is not love.
You belittle me,
Mock me,
Humiliate me,
This is not love.
Your words torture me,
You think its ok to hit me,
You justify your cruelty,
This is not love.
I have tried to explain,
I have never blamed you,
I needed the distance,
This is not love.
You dont listen to me,
You turn family against me,
You are ashamed of me,
This is not love.
You blame me,
You shame me,
You will never accept me,
This is not love.
You go behind my back,
Telling people you want to help,
Yet you only ever scold me,
This is not love.
You refused to listen,
Just continued to blame,
Telling me its not good enough,
This is not love.
Others have tried to tell you,
You are making me sick,
But still you will not have it,
This is not love.
Everything that happens to me,
How you would abuse me,
You can only show anger,
This is no love.
You have pushed me so far,
That i've lost my mind,
I've lost all hope,
This is not love.
I have had patience with you,
Told you I understand you,
Yet still its never enough,
This is not love.
You want me to visit,
You will pay me to visit,
Pay to make me more sick...
This is not love.
After I was assaulted,
Your anger was relentless,
The blaming, the shaming,
This is not love.
Screaming and shouting down the phone,
I was forced to listen, I had no control,
Telling me id caused so much damage, made people sick..
This is not love.
All I got from you,
Was yet more torture,
More abuse, no empathy,
This is not love.
Ever since that day Ive known,
You cannot be my mother,
I cant treat anyone like you did,
This is not love.
I cannot understand,
What it must be like,
To have zero compassion,
This is not love.
You tortured me before,
Then you tortured me more,
Now you want me to come back?
This is not love.
Mum - I do not hate you,
And I mean you no harm,
But you have caused so much damage,
This is not love.
I am certainly not perfect,
And neither are you,
But i'd never want to hurt someone,
This is not love.
You see ive studied narcissism,
Ive dedicated so much time,
Trying to understand you,
Reaching the same conclusions time again.
I know its not your fault,
I will never blame you,
But you simply will not understand,
That I cannot love you.
All you've done is prove me right,
Though for a long time I doubted myself,
You made me doubt on purpose...
Mum - this is not love.
You are a textbook narcissist,
Im sorry if you think im wrong,
You rejected my suggestion of getting help...
This is not love.
After I was *****
I knew you'd react that way,
Yet your anger still sickens me,
It sickens me to this day.
It proved to me once and for all,
That you can never be my mother,
Maybe we could be friends one day,
But you are not my mother.
Mum we have no bond,
We never have had one,
All you've shown me is disgust,
This is not love.
Others may be on your side,
I've read up on that too,
You hurt me to your own advantage,
This cannot be love.
Im not trying to hurt you,
Disrespect you, or anyone else,
Im only now protecting myself,
For what we have...is not love.
You turned all those I love against me,
But thats what narcissists do,
Im not the only victim you know,
And I do know your love is not true.
I am sorry mum,
It is all I can say,
We both need to fix ourselves,
Then maybe we can meet someday.
But after all this abuse,
I am sorry to say,
That I do not love you,
This is not love mum, I now see clear as day.
Im tired mum
Please let me go....
Take care **
Feb 20, 2019
Feb 20, 2019 at 7:17 PM UTC
Men I don’t love
Send me emails telling me that they care about people like me.
They say,
I am committed to helping people achieve their dreams by providing the right support. I want to thank you for your interest in utilizing this opportunity.
The boy I know
Sends me a message saying he saw potential in us.
He writes,
I wanted to help you become better. And when you spoke to me that first day, I thought that maybe we could become something greater than we are now. Together.
Men that know me
Send me emails saying that they liked learning what’s in my head.
They say,
I recognize the time and effort you put into this and truly appreciate that you shared your thoughts and ideas with me.
The boy that doesn’t love me
Sends me a message saying he knows what he meant to me.
He writes,
I know how hard you tried to make this work. I think you’re amazing, how you always give your all into everything. How you gave your all to me.
Men I don’t know
Send me copy-paste emails that I have memorized.
They say,
There was an outstanding selection of applicants this year and the competition was intense. I regret to inform you that you were not selected to receive an award.
The boy I love
Sends me a message saying what Men I Don’t Know couldn’t.
He writes,
*It’s just that this isn’t what I’m looking for.
You’re not who I am looking for.*
Sep 6, 2017
Sep 6, 2017 at 12:49 AM UTC
"That's all I can say"
You said.
I told you that was okay.
"No worries."
I didn't know what I wanted you to say...
Okay yea I did.
Feb 11, 2016
Feb 11, 2016 at 3:18 AM UTC
your emails have me hot
your words turn me on
twist, obey, decay
right to my core
it feels so good
the power of words
just a few from you
and i smile, for once
i never smile
bite my lip at the computer screen
waiting for another message
Dec 7, 2015
Dec 7, 2015 at 2:12 PM UTC
without the knowledge and cyber presence
of you and your awareness of my
presence (so I thought), I am
feeling more and more
unjustified, groping,
unloved, ugly
dissatis fied
lon ely
e m
p t
y.
Jul 16, 2014
Jul 16, 2014 at 5:31 AM UTC
I don’t want to write yet another poem about you
about your gorgeous words,
and how they trickle like honey down my neck.
about the sweet way you seem to like
to email me.
for no reason at all.
about your smile, your laugh
and the way they just suit your face
so well.
about the fact that you once surreptitiously
asked for my number.
about the way you under-state things.
about your eyes.
about the curves of your lips.
about your glasses
and braces.
it’s creepy.
i really need to stop writing
about you.
Apr 30, 2014
Apr 30, 2014 at 3:53 AM UTC