My friends used
To always be around
Good times, bad times
It didn't really matter
Every day was a new
Exciting adventure

Fast forward 10 years
Our group is scattered
All over the world and
We've become merely
Memoirs to reminisce
On my insomnia nights

PeterGerstenmaier

Friends

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Not a single friend from my youth remains. Not a single friend from my early adulthood remains. Not even my own brother(10 years now).
I am not the same person. I put drinking and cocaine behind me. I'm too old for sports leagues and I'm not wealthy enough to have season tickets or belong to clubs.
My friends are online through Miami Dolphin Twitter(many I've met) and live all over the country and even in Ireland and Scotland. 
I do believe that we change. Our priorities change. Our wants and needs change...
and I'm your friend. I'm always a message away.
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removed.-zk5k

That's life I guess, passages of time, people come ,people go, in time reunions can happen but never recreate the good ol' days

stephen-e-yocum

That is how it works,
people come and go.
Be your own best friend
and other ones will follow.
Your poem is very relatable Peter.

pg13

You&#8217;re not alone in your feelings. I can relate.

itz_strawblee

Strange how the ones i called friends look through me, as if I was never there. It hurts a bit though

AbbottJHardison

It happens sooner then you'd think. I assumed I had at least a few more years with my good friends, but it seems like life had other plans. Great work Peter, this is touching.

removed.Manuela

This is what happens when we grow up I guess, but depression does close one off more too...

removed.poormansdreams

Every positive memory that you have with those friends exists permanently within the history of the universe. Like a still from a feature film they are time-stamped within the cosmos at that particular moment. So do not mourn the loss. Instead reminisce on time well spent with good friends that will live on in the memory of existence forever more.

es4444

This has happened to me too... I had a really good friend from New York come to visit London, but she left too early and we lost touch... Really sad... I feel you.

removed.-591t

I don&#8217;t have a lot of friends but the ones I have are plenty for me.  I moved around a lot when I was a young man.  I learned to adapt and stopped always trying to &#8220;fit in&#8221;.

g-alan-johnson

I can relate. You are not, by any means, alone.

removed.u685248

Same thing happened to me. Partly, y'know, life becomes more about kids, grandkids, work, health problems (!!!), and a lot of it for me was also realizing I didn't really like my friends!! Many I still had from growing up, but I really didn't have anything in common with them much. Or the same, but from people I'd worked with. Or when the chips were really down, people just didn't have my 6 at all, not the way I'd had for them, so realizing I was doing 90% of the heavy lifting in almost all my friendships, I just thought FUCK THIS SHIT!!! I stopped doing the heavy lifting and my "friends" just disappeared. So not very great friends after all. Maybe it's something like this? 

Also, I grew up in a narcissistic family unit, which mean most of my family on both sides suffered from these PPDs, when meant healthy people either weren't attracted to me, or I pushed them away more often, and attracted narcissistic people to my life. One day I woke up to this and realized, holy fuck, my entire family, including my daughter, and almost 99% of my friends, have severe pervasive personality disorders, the bad ones, i.e. antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic... I thought, well, I must be paranoid, because not EVERYONE in my life can be THAT fucked up, but I started dating some very NON-fucked up people, and they clued me in, along with a good psych nurse, that, YES, with my background it's not at ALL strange that my ENTIRE social circle is in, colloquial terms, EVIL!!

I ditched soooo many, and then started getting ditched by many others in return. Now I have 3 solid friends who I know have my 6 through thick and thin, and remember that the very happiest times in my life were the ones I spent the most time alone with myself anyways, by far. I somehow forgot that. Reading a lot, gaming, playing music, tons of solitary pursuits, that's what's given me the most joy. Not saying everyone has to be like me, but I think with social EVERYTHING having blown up so much since the World Wide Web was popularized people have forgotten that it's not such an abnormal thing to spend a lot of time in these solitary pursuits. Writing's another one, you can't really "write" with another person, it's something to be done alone.

I'm finding being a sniper, blowing the heads off of Russian officer's heads from 2.5+ klicks away, this, too, is a very solitary pursuit, and one that give great, great satisfaction as well. ;-)

Maddypb

Peter, it happens right under your nose.
People change even when you don&#8217;t expect it or see it.
Hang in there.

NevilleZ

patty-mmmmmmmmmm

It happens to most of us, in fact I have relatives that I haven't seen in years.  You state it perfectly, but life goes on.

Khurana

removed.-f9zw

I don't see any of my friends anymore from my school days. I probably could make friends from going to the pub and speaking to strangers but.......I would rather a lady friend. :-)

mistertruth

Nice write Poet. However, not to be the bearer of more truth-- It gets even better (not) when they start passing. Chin up. I am only the messenger!

badwords

Avni

So many of us feel alone, but none of us have to be. We are all just too afraid to come find each other.

dr-peter-lim

I did think of this often---you beat me to it in writing this--thanks! Typo: scattered is the right word

SenSins

Felt! But as I say- that&#8217;s just life. And it&#8217;s what makes those times and moments precious. We really need to cherish every second we spend with our loved ones- because we&#8217;ll always look back in the future.

ragtagradical

Call em up. Say hello. Let em know that your fondness for them is still part of you. Then move on. I find that social media made it harder to connect to old friends, because it seemed like they were right there, but ignoring me. Since canceling all my accounts (unless this counts) it doesn't feel so intentional. And i don't feel guilty for not reaching when they appear to be just there.

removed.-vwn4

Nostalgia, always present in this type of recording.

removed.-4rc2

This is me stealing another person quotes, but I like it, and it can maybe put a perspective on this Peter for you I hopes? I miss writing with you on the messenger system, and leave lots of comments back and forth, and give each other sunshine!! I thinking of you, don't think just cuz I am busy with my duty that not forgetting my friend, der Petrus that is the best of them all!!!

&#8222;Menschen sind aus einem bestimmten Grund, einer Jahreszeit oder einem Leben lang in Ihrem Leben.&#8220;

We no know which person is of which, so we should just enjoy each moment of them, and stand up to be treated well, don't you take no Schei&#223;e!! But in turn, share and let them share in turn, try to enrich their life, and let them enrich yours, and no worry over chronology... things will last as they meant to last, and just cuz something is short doesn't make it bad... I have my best friend ever Aroha in my heart forever, and I only know her 3 year, but that short don't make it wrong, it just make it more and more precious and special inside of me... I wish she stay on Earth longer, but I appreciate time I have with her, and my girls, the short time again make all the more precious. Trust.

roxyyy

Yeah, it sucks... I never personally had a friend group, but I'm telling you, those things tend to fall apart... But good news, you find good friends throughout the life, no matter how old you are, my grandma, for example, met a good friend unexpectedly at the age of 60, haha

Don't worry, Peter, it's coming for you! Such a nice person will definitely have good people around them to stay:)

Atul

We are here, Peter. You always stay young. Always remain happy.

cj-sutherland

Friends couple up Mary have children start families or get careers and they go off in different ways. They move on it doesn&#8217;t mean you&#8217;re less of a friend friendships have a time life sometimes, but then there are friends at last forever but as you get older at least in my case it seems harder to have a friend. But I became my own best friend.

South-by-Southwest

It has nothing to do with depression . It may cause depression but growing older is simply life taking away . Everything eventually .