getting day-drunk and
wallowing in self-loathing,
not only
welcomed
but
encouraged
(and more importantly-
expected).
Conversation minefields,
to navigate
with only
the utmost care.
Talk about the weather
and whether
or not
"the game" will go the way you want,
the sitcom situation will reach resolution,
the recipe could use some almonds,
or cumin-
(or *****
But avoid the specifics
at all costs.
Just remember:
School is
"good."
Work is
"busy."
Your husband/wife/bf/gf/partner/cat/landlord is
"great."
You are
"fine."
Just remember:
Today you are not
overwhelmed.
Your personal life is definitely not
in shambles.
Your financial situation is completely in order and not
inadequate or
hopeless or
causing insurmountable stress.
Today,
You are
"fine."
So
laugh politely,
accept the guilt-trips,
roll your eyes only when they look away.
Know
they mean well.
(or at least pretend they do)
Reminisce and
overeat and
don't apologize.
Fight and bicker and debate.
Cheat at cards
(but don't get caught!)
and accept each other's flaws.
No matter what,
just remember what
is ultimately important-
Despite the criticism,
the misunderstanding,
the generation gaps,
the dysfunction,
the disappointment,
the unrealistic expectations,
the heartbreak,
the competition,
the confusion,
the pain.
To have a family (no matter what form)
guarantees
you have a place you belong.
The place can be uncomfortable,
and small,
and unbelievably hard to find
and a nightmare to maintain
but it is yours,
so be grateful.
And revel in the strange and difficult and wonderful love only a family can offer.
Apr 1, 2013
Apr 1, 2013 at 12:51 AM UTC
getting day-drunk and
wallowing in self-loathing,
not only
welcomed
but
encouraged
(and more importantly-
expected).
Conversation minefields,
to navigate
with only
the utmost care.
Talk about the weather
and whether
or not
"the game" will go the way you want,
the sitcom situation will reach resolution,
the recipe could use some almonds,
or cumin-
(or *****
But avoid the specifics
at all costs.
Just remember:
School is
"good."
Work is
"busy."
Your husband/wife/bf/gf/partner/cat/landlord is
"great."
You are
"fine."
Just remember:
Today you are not
overwhelmed.
Your personal life is definitely not
in shambles.
Your financial situation is completely in order and not
inadequate or
hopeless or
causing insurmountable stress.
Today,
You are
"fine."
So
laugh politely,
accept the guilt-trips,
roll your eyes only when they look away.
Know
they mean well.
(or at least pretend they do)
Reminisce and
overeat and
don't apologize.
Fight and bicker and debate.
Cheat at cards
(but don't get caught!)
and accept each other's flaws.
No matter what,
just remember what
is ultimately important-
Despite the criticism,
the misunderstanding,
the generation gaps,
the dysfunction,
the disappointment,
the unrealistic expectations,
the heartbreak,
the competition,
the confusion,
the pain.
To have a family (no matter what form)
guarantees
you have a place you belong.
The place can be uncomfortable,
and small,
and unbelievably hard to find
and a nightmare to maintain
but it is yours,
so be grateful.
And revel in the strange and difficult and wonderful love only a family can offer.
Easter alone made me miss the unmitigated disaster that is holidays with my odd and lovely family.
