It is often the most difficult task, to forgive Could you agree?
I am not very good at it, I will admit When all you want is to get even or to make the other(s) hurt just as badly as they hurt you... that fuels the grudge
What is forgiveness? Is it letting someone off the hook? Is forgivness simply forgetting? Is it saying the wrong perpetrated upon us is now OK? That it really did not hurt or offend us after all?
No, it is so much more Forgiveness is not an act of the emotions, for they seem unable to ever come to reason and they often betray us
It is an act of the will, a release not just for the other but for ourselves from the prison of resentment and anger
Do we need to hear an apology to forgive? No
Do we need to make sure the other or others receive justice? No
What we need is to make that choice To forgive even if we don't feel like it To wait till we "feel like it" is a lie It is like holding on to a poison that only destroys ourselves and not the ones we intended for it to torment
Forgiveness doesn't mean we now have amnesia about the wrong inflicted upon us It just means all resentment and bitterness no longer have us in a vice-like grip
And if we refuse to forgive one who is begging us for it that person is stuck in a *******, too Sometimes, we find it is us that is in need of forgiveness and sometimes it is that very thing that we need to extend to ourselves so we can enjoy being in our own skin
I am nobody to instruct another about how to forgive I am writing this partly for myself It is one of the hardest things for me, to forgive But when I am on the receiving end it feels so beautiful and so freeing
To err is truly human And to forgive is truly divine It is not of our human nature to simply forgive but is a gift from God above Even under the worst of cruel situations true forgiveness is possible