The men who have been in my life are messy. Literally and metaphorically. One drank too much, has trouble with the law. The other is bad with money and he doesn’t know how to clean. They struggle with bipolar, depression and anxiety and they looked to me for comfort but offered little in return. They aren’t bad guys, and I see myself in their flaws but I can’t save them. And I don’t want to. They see something in me, and I see the potential they hold. I think that’s why I invited them in but it’s my turn to be taken care of. I’ve spent my life helping others, and putting myself last. Are men capable of really being a good partner?