Spying on someone is about control,
So when I say you're controlling, you disagree?
When I say I can't trust you,
You say, but of course you can!
There is no friendship in this, therefore there cannot be true love,
When one insecure broken side of the puzzle can't function in a healthy way,
There is no honest relationship,
There is no honest you.

Truth is the truth and truth is revealed in actions.