Dig beneath the surface Despite best intentions, You’re probably going to feel guilty. You’re going to make mistakes. Regret can make you better, Part of learning Much more damaging: harmful thoughts feeling bad at the core “What kind of monster am I?” “I am worthless.” “It’s all my fault.” “I don’t deserve this.” A destructive effect. Want to hide from others. Keep it to yourself, Anger is turned outward: Sharing our worst selves, with the ones we love. Always an underlying problem, fear or hurt, “That’s just the way I am.” Get frustrated and walk away, Unaware of deeper emotions. Ultimately - powerlessness, Much tougher to face. “I can’t make them happy.” “They might leave.” Inadequacy is often intertwined, Fear of judgement. A stereotype that has lingered “I feel inept” Slow to identify vulnerable emotions People know no other way, Take responsibility for how you feel, And begin to unravel it.