My dad's ego was the pillow by which he smothered the family. He brought The Commandments down from Mount Fatherhood.
We were heretics if we questioned his Testament of Rules for Living. He provided Bitter Soup for the Soul: Put everything in the vise.
He claimed it out of affection, but it was from the pits of the id. His superego was malleable, but not anyone else's.
He is gone and so is mother. The rest of us are buried in his legacy, struggling to escape the dung in which we live as we fight demons of baser nature.