years ago i spent a winter in san francisco living in a mission hotel when it was cheap enough i met a charming young lady and we kept company for a couple of months we went out, we stayed in, we had fun and one night she said "man, youβre so cool about going out with a black woman itβs like it makes absolutely no difference to you" and i thought, sheβs black? huh that might explain why when we hit the clubs the black men were staring razors at me